The Daily Peeve / Rant

[Tradd]

Attended a wedding today at another Orthodox parish in the area. I was shocked by other guests bad mouthing the couple for having a church wedding, nasty comments about religion as a whole, etc. The comments were loud and started before the ceremony and kept going on during it. I'm sure the couple heard, they were so loud. The priest definitely heard. He stopped the ceremony and told people to hold their comments until after the ceremony. If they couldn't, please leave. Some left.

Simple manners and respect have gone the way of the dodo. If people have issues with religion, etc., don't go to the ceremony. Skip it and go to the reception. I don't think anyone will care. I grew up in the Midwest in the 70s and 80s and people were skipping the ceremony even back then.

[happystuff]

Attended a wedding today at another Orthodox parish in the area. I was shocked by other guests bad mouthing the couple for having a church wedding, nasty comments about religion as a whole, etc. The comments were loud and started before the ceremony and kept going on during it. I'm sure the couple heard, they were so loud. The priest definitely heard. He stopped the ceremony and told people to hold their comments until after the ceremony. If they couldn't, please leave. Some left.

Simple manners and respect have gone the way of the dodo. If people have issues with religion, etc., don't go to the ceremony. Skip it and go to the reception. I don't think anyone will care. I grew up in the Midwest in the 70s and 80s and people were skipping the ceremony even back then.

My assumption would be that they were invited because they are friends and/or family of the bride or groom, so why show up to potentially ruin ANY part of the couple's wedding? That's just crass.

[catherine]

That's so disrepectful to the couple and to the congregation. As you said, they knew they were going into a church--if I had insisted on getting married in the Catholic church I had grown up iny "Orange" Scottish in-law relatives would not have entered. But at least they wouldn't have been inside making rude comments.

As you know I'm writing a chapter on spirituality for my book, and it has been immensely challenging because it will be in the middle of the book and I don't want to turn people who have negative feelings about religion off... I vascillate in the balance between spirituality in general, i.e. a pantheistic approach, vs a "religious" approach. I might provide a skip pattern--"If you hate religion, skip to page XXX." (I'm half-joking).

In any case, I'm glad the priest said something, and I hope he embarrassed them.

[Tradd]

My assumption would be that they were invited because they are friends and/or family of the bride or groom, so why show up to potentially ruin ANY part of the couple's wedding? That's just crass.

Yes, they were invited guests. Not someone who showed up off the street.

[iris lilies]

That is absolutely amazing that people can’t sit in a church and keep their mouth shut even if they don’t embrace what’s going on inside the church. it’s just not that hard to be polite.

[Tradd]

That is absolutely amazing that people can’t sit in a church and keep their mouth shut even if they don’t embrace what’s going on inside the church. it’s just not that hard to be polite.

Something similar happened at another church wedding in a different parish before the pandemic. People just can’t be respectful.

[iris lilies]

Something similar happened at another church wedding in a different parish before the pandemic. People just can’t be respectful.

And they can’t apparently exercise their curiosity. Visiting other churches is like a little tour in cultural diversity.

[Tradd]

And they can’t apparently exercise their curiosity. Visiting other churches is like a little tour in cultural diversity.

Well, these comments I heard were all VERY anti-religion. If they were that against religion, don't go to the ceremony.

[rosarugosa]

Well you all know that I am very anti-religion, but I agree, this was very rude and inappropriate behavior.

[rosarugosa]

My rant for the day is over the fact that no two objects on the planet take the same version of button battery.