Took the dog for a walk this morning.. 11 degrees. The wind wasn't blowing too hard so it was not bad. Thankful to be able to get out of the house! Guess this is a rave rather than a rant.... hehe!Quote:
Originally Posted by 19Sandy
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Took the dog for a walk this morning.. 11 degrees. The wind wasn't blowing too hard so it was not bad. Thankful to be able to get out of the house! Guess this is a rave rather than a rant.... hehe!Quote:
Originally Posted by 19Sandy
Just heard of another huge development in what used to be a small, rural neighboring town. They built this huge sports complex, then people had to have shopping, hotels, restaurants close, so they're building those. Now they're trying to get permission to build a huge food/gaming development.......whatever the hell that is. The guy on the news promoting it was saying crap like "everyone wants new foods and this is a place to start". Who's everyone??? Absolutely NOT ME!! The developers are just like politicians........lie, lie, lie.
Bet the neighborhood is gentrifying.
Article in the small community where I live, population around 7,000, saying they cannot understand why people of the community are not on board with spending $150 million on schools.... saying they are now putting through to get $39 Million which is not enough!!!!! Who is going to pay for this???? Totally nuts. Talking about NEEDING an olympic sized swimming pool and convention center. WTH!
What is with my ancestors NOT listing their mother's name on documents? You get to be 90 years old and never tell anyone who your mother was? But the father's name is there and he was married multiple times and no one can figure out who your mother was because you have so many different birth dates listed - Sigh!
Shooting and killing a 3 year old because his grandmother wasn't driving fast enough! Sick!
So many destroyed lives over this!
Just getting over another cold.
Not as epic as the cold with the cough that lingered for weeks back in September, but darn it, this is my vacation and I've had my flu shot and couldn't it be someone else's turn now..!
Went grocery shopping tonight and just before I was to check out I parked my cart out of the way and went half an aisle down to get something. I came back and my cart was gone!!!! There was a cart there with a few items. Geez.. they must have taken my cart. Yes, the gal comes back and wants to take her cart and says my cart is "that way." No, I said, you take me where my cart is.... It was about 5 aisles from where I left it. I was TICKED. She said "I didn't take your cart on purpose." I said, "but you left my cart far away and didn't plan on putting it where I could find it." What a moron!
Hopefully you learned your cart should remain in site, and I hope you hadn't left your purse in it. I don't think you need to call yourself that name though.:laff:Quote:
Originally Posted by frugal-one
My motherinlaw is still peeved at me when I chastised her about leaving her purse in the cart out of her sight. It has a shoulder strap for just that purpose. Argggggg.
Obviously, my cart was in sight. I turned away to get an item. I NEVER put my purse in the cart. Can't believe people that do that! Also, cannot fathom people who leave their small children in the cart and go a few aisles away! Just asking for trouble!Quote:
Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff
ETA Will not comment on your inane remark.
So BIL came over last night--as you guys know, we're selling the house, but he's broke. He has 7k to his name. A minimum wage seasonal job. After having EVERYTHING provided to him by his mother for 47 years of his life, reality is kicking him in the gut. He's 53 and he definitely should be as freaked out as he is right now.
I've given him my copy of Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover, because even though I told him being able to get by is a simple mathematical equation--your outgo cannot exceed your income--I truly don't think he gets it. But he hasn't read the book and continues to complain and cry.
His "poor me" stuff is starting to grate on me, because he comes over and will say to us "Ahh! it's nice and warm in here!" (64)--he says his heat is now set at 58. Or he will sit down and say "Must be nice to have TV" (he cut his cable, which was wise, but we gave him an Amazon fire stick months ago and he still hasn't plugged it in. I don't think he knows how). Or, he will wander over to our refrigerator and open the door. He won't ask if I have anything specific. He'll just stand there and look, and when I'm not looking he'll take food or a soda or beer. Just weird stuff.
But last night when he was over, he sat and talked for 15 minutes about a friend of his, a beautiful girl half his age, whose mother is in advanced stages of colon cancer. They're in Costa Rica in hopes of an alternative medical cure, and she has a GoFundMe campaign. He was fishing and fishing for me to contribute (which I will not), saying, "I can't believe some people won't give her SOMETHING! Anything! If everyone just gave $30....I'd feel guilty if I didn't do that."
Then after he stared like a puppy dog for a half hour at an opened bottle of red wine I had sitting on my counter , I asked him if he wanted a glass and he says, "You read my mind. I like to have a couple of glasses of wine so I don't have to take Tylenol PM to make me sleep."
But here's the kicker: Out of curiosity, I went on his friend's GoFundMe page, and.... HE DONATED $300 TO HER YESTERDAY!!!! The same day that I went to pay HIS property taxes because he can no longer afford them. (The house is half ours, so obviously I have a vested interest in paying them.)
$300 is at least 25% of his current living expenses for one month. So he whines about food and heat and he gives away $300???
I'm venting here because I won't tell DH. He'll go nuts. Maybe I will later, but I'm keeping my mouth shut for now. Thanks for listening.
"God bless the child that's got his own."
Arghh...
Ah, catherine. Your BIL's money is his money, and also YOUR money is his money. You are the great and givIng mom, In his mind, anyway.
I was wondering about you taking the action, or inaction, of simply not paying the real estate taxes. How would that affect your bil's attitude? I don't know what will keep you from being exactly in this same place a year from now on December 31,2017.
While it sounds risky, it takes years for a property to get to the stage of a tax sale, here in my city anyway. At any point you can swoop in and pay the taxes, and penalties (which are minimal here) and get your property back. Sure, in the real world it is not something I would do because it is just too scary, but I know several people who pay their taxes a year after they are due. I look up property on on our city assessor's database and see these things.
I know. I'm 11 years older, so he probably does see me as an extension of his mother. And she was such an enabler. I used to ask her, "why don't you make I.. pay SOMETHING toward food or heat?" (He would spend tons of money on food at high-end supermarkets and put it on her credit card). And she would say, "But I'd be spending the money anyway, if he weren't here." They had a symbiotic relationship--they each needed each other in their own way, so I think she "paid" him to be her companion in a way. But I knew her treating him as a perennial child would end badly, and it has.Quote:
Originally Posted by iris lilies
However, I have enough children to care for, and they take FAR less caring for than this man-child.
To your point, IL, I will probably drag my feet on the next two quarters of property taxes. HOPEFULLY by then the house will be sold.
If I'm in the same place December 31, 2017, shoot me.
I was wondering about those taxes. I think that is a problem, that you are supposed to pay them, since it is not really your house. It just seems like you have become the one keeping everyone afloat.
After a lot of kicking and screaming, I have been going back to Al-anon and it is really helping me with boundaries and this kind of family situation. I didn't really want to go but I am hearing things there that are really helping me to figure out what my part in a situation is/should be--what I want to contribute to a situation and what I don't. Hearing other people say things like "no is a complete sentence" has been really helpful to me lately, not sure why it's sinking in for me now.
Catherine, at least he gave money to a person he cares about for a medical reason, even though they are probably being scammed. When we were helping keep DBIL afloat, he bought a young woman who was living in to take care of his daughters a $300 Siamese cat. He could have gotten a free kitten of any sort, but no... had to be a purebred. While they were being evicted, and had little money for food. The young woman moved on with her boyfriend, DBIL and kids ended up in a hotel room, and the cat ended up feral. ARG!! FINALLY, DH has cut DBIL out of our financial picture. TG!
I thought it would be peaceful today since it is New Year's Eve, but people loading up more stuff to move - it must have been wall to wall furniture in that apartment! I should have told them about Marie Kondo! Plus, they said they are moving into a smaller! place! How?
Then other people are getting deliveries of stuff from appliance and furniture places - I feel like I live on a major highway right now!
Been having my weird headaches for a few days that are caused by the constant temperature fluctuations, and I can't seem to get motivated to do much unless it is late and night and quiet.
Thank you! I've been thinking about going back to Al-Anon. I think I still have a lot of lessons to learn!Quote:
Originally Posted by Tybee
True--I'm spending a lot on a house that's not technically mine, although I trust that DH and I will jointly decide how to use his share when it sells. But in my state, that's not a guarantee. I admit I'm operating on faith.
I think you are a saint, and I wish BIL would stop taking advantage of that.
But then I just want you to sell both houses and get up to Vermont and fulfill my Golden Pond fantasy!
Catherine: You have every right to be highly annoyed with your BIL! If the Grinch's heart is two sizes too small, then you (and my sister also comes to mind) have a heart that is two sizes too big. But I think there is no greater virtue than kindness. <3
my dad is in the hospital because he keeps falling and various other ailments that all present the same way as when he got diagnosed with a rare mitochondrial disease. Back then he saw a geneticist, got the meds he needed and he was back to his normal self. Fast forward 10 yrs, there's no adult geneticist in town for what he has so his primary prescribes the meds. I truly think he is having a relapse and needs to have the meds increased. Every other time this has happened, he needed a med adjustment and he would improve in less than 24 hrs, back to his normal self. So his primary prescribes the meds reluctantly because someone has to. No one in the hospital will call the primary to get an order to increase the meds because he does not go to that hospital. I tried calling, he won't even call them and explain the possible situation. He got there Thurs, no PT/OT until Tues, then they plan to ship him to rehab without finding out the reason why he keeps falling, unbelievable. Sooooooooo frustrated.
My sinuses are a mess from the dry air leading to bad headaches, and my little humidifier is making strange noises, so I will need to replace it soon. Hope I find one at a good price that has a quiet motor.
I am freezing from the drafts again! Blech!
Ow! After being away from a commercial kitchen for six months, I apparently forgot how to handle a chef's knife safely and ended up literally slicing off the top of my left thumb. It is ugly and it took forever to stop bleeding. I didn't think stitches would work because there is no flap to close up...antibiotic creme and lots of band aids...
Have you recieved any professional medical care? You're right that stitches won't work -fingertips are almost never stitched, but you may need more serious disinfectant and possibly a sterile pressure dressing.
says the niece and granddaughter of surgeons who also sliced the tip off of her left thumb. And cut the index finger to the bone halfway down the first joint.
The "experts" let a guy on a plane with a gun who said he was listening to ISIS? So, it it is time to think about whether people can transport weapons in the baggage hold. Well, it is past time.
Good golly are people so illiterate now that they can't read the numbers on an address?
What a day, landlord is getting stupider and playing more games. My blood was boiling today and the issue is not over yet!
I wish my sinus headache would go away, got a fever, and I am tired but can't relax!
My hourglass is 1 minute, 35 seconds slow. :(
Medicare denied my dad inpatient rehab. I spent the day taking him to the doctor's. He is a shadow of his former self, can barely walk, in a ton of pain. His primary is very good, he was strict with my dad about a couple of things he has slacked off on but said, "I don't want you to be resigned to this. If you follow our plan, you should get better." I think my dad really needed to hear that. I guess this isn't a rant although he really belongs in inpatient rehab. He's been home a while and no home PT/OT yet, grrr.
Elderly father will not go to a doctor.
Today: Got a bill from dentist that is more complicated than an IRS bill. After getting mad and studying it, they did not input the $$ amount of my VISA payment. They made a note but did not input the amount. VISA has the approved payment on my account. Sent email to sort out because, of course, the office is closed for the day.
Then the dishwasher broke. Thankfully no water on floor. So hubby is going to waste a half day and loads of $$ to replace.
Then it started to rain on us on the walk to our dinner restaurant over a mile away. No umbrellas. Had frozen meal at home.
Then I got another robo call about a complimentary service from the local hospital to "help me with my medical bills" regarding an account that was always fully paid. This makes 3 or 4 calls over an erroneous bill. And I HATE robo calls. Another hot email to the hospital that had 3 employees call and assure me the bill was totally erroneous and resolved.
Tomorrow has to be better.
it has to be!
Coworkers who want to play with their (must be some sort of sex organ) phones, rather then work and want to delay things to try to get overtime, so those of us who want to get the fiery location out of work, get stuck behind them.
Very bad case of the winter gloomies - cold weather, snow and nothing special or different to do. Feel, like I am going nutty or alternatively, want to sleep until spring.
No wonder people are acting nutty, there is both a lunar eclipse and a comet this Friday to Saturday!
passive aggressive people, they suck. You can talk directly to them, but it always feels like you are handing them something and they are not even putting up their hands. Just staring blankly and connecting, participating, showing up.
MORONS............................................ ....
In the last week, I have dealt with too many morons. One of my parents became one, when the other said, hospital, can't breath, and they put them in the car, and asked them what hospital, driving like an old person, obeying every traffic law, and not having sense enough to drive across the street to the fire/paramedic station.>:(
well that IS silly. Did the elderly parent getnto the hospital ok?Quote:
Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff