This past weekend my mom and dad came to visit. My dad and I, along with my BIL, were going trout fishing at a nearby lake.

It started off all well and good -- we grilled some burgers (mine was lamb), enjoyed a lunch, talked fishing a little bit, and then packed up the gear.

That is where things took a turn for the infuriating.

As soon as me, my dad, and BIL piled into my hatchback my dad says: "Anybody else packing?"

I said: "Uh...no, we're going to a metro park. I am not even sure you can bring guns there."


He went on a tirade about the law of preemption of some such. Then as I am driving to the lake my dad pulls the gun out and hands it off to my BIL and says: "It is loaded and ready to go!"

I just thought: "I am driving here. I could get fender bended and there could be a negligent discharge! What the hell!?"

Then he went on a rant about gun rights. And then a rant about how great Scalia was.

Then he told me how I needed to rent an apartment with a garage so I can store all my stuff in there, like my canoe, fishing gear, and all that.

Then I specifically got ice to put the fish on (the most humane way to dispatch the fish). Yet when my BIL catches one my dad puts it on a stringer.

He also went on a rant about how without religion people cannot be ethical or charitable. WTF?!

It dawned on me that if he was not my bio-dad, I would really have no reason to want to be around him.

So I am asking myself: Is that enough? Or should I just do the slow-fade?

You know -- don't call, don't visit, when he and my mom come down to visit I can just have some other obligation.

My mom is not as bad, she is fairly liberal, but she is mentally ill and very materialistic. Again, would I choose to be around her at all if she was not my bio-mom? Probably not.

I kept wondering: Am I part of some cosmic mistake? Why am I here on this planet with these parents? haha

Thoughts on the slow fade?