CL: thanks for sharing, your thoughts are so interesting. DH Mom's was a great lady but a hoarder. He loves living in a neat, clean home however, he needs zones where he can keep crap and be a mess. I don't understand it. It feels so much calmer/better to not be in chaos for me. I am an ENTJ. However, now that I have gotten older I need alone time. I never did when younger. The nesting instinct is wanting your personal space to feel good. so you decorate to make it feel that way. As I am aging I find I need less stuff to feel better. I also don't want to burden my kids with getting rid of a bunch of crap if I die. When I go into a model home it feels so good. One of the tricks they use is to have no small nik-naks. Only large items. This keeps it from feeling cluttered. So I am trying to replicate that although I do have some small stuff but it all fits into a small curio cabinet. I got rid of anything that didn't.