Thanks awakenedsoul and HappyHiker, I loved hearing your responses

I hope I'm not coming off like some b!itch who's always complaining to hubby that everything is his fault. Not me at all - I'm a big self-blamer actually. But I do tend to withdraw when I'm unhappy, and that can come off like passive-aggression I think. I grew up in a chaotic home with parents who rejected me from the start - my mother was always screaming and my dad was constantly trying to bait me into arguments. I HATE noise, arguments, confrontations, etc. My response to their rigged game was just to shut down, and that became my MO. I realize it's counterproductive for me as an adult, but I don't always know that I'm doing it.

With my hubby there is real love (something that was missing with my parents), and sometimes I think he would just like to know where I am. So thanks for the reminders to include him.