"supposed to be?" I never said that it was.
Sigh. I've been nothing but supportive of you leaving the U.,S.
Where the rubber meets the road is that, umm, how to put this gently, those other developed countries don't want you. But do not mistake their sentiment for mine.
Interestingly enough, DH's family is investigating Swiss citizenship or some version of citizenship. According to our Swiss relatives, it's doable for DH and his siblings because their mother was born in Switzerland. According to one foray into Swiss bureaucrat-land, it's not doable. But they are continuing to investigate. For us, at this late date, there's not much advantage, but we've got a nephew who aould love to work in the EU. Even if there would be a pathway to citizenship or permanent residency for DH and I, we'd have to look at how much the U.S. would confiscate before we leave, as pointed out by bae.