Quote Originally Posted by ctg492 View Post
Sorry, my heart is with you and her.
Admitting one has an issue is a huge step. Asking for rehab, is a monumental step. What I learned way to late with my son was that I was not a counselor, I was not a Doctor, I was not the support group or his peers. Which he needed those. I was love, I was Enableing.
There is a lot of wisdom here. I was thinking of commenting on the addiction post in another thread, that I thought the article was actually quite dangerous is that it promoted the idea that you, the person who loves the problem drinker, is somehow responsible for fixing the problem through love.

I don't think that can be done, unfortunately. If it could be done, there would not be many problem drinkers out there, as most have people who care about them very much.

I have known a lot of alcoholics who have been able to find sobriety through AA. Other alcoholics will understand and work with your daughter in a way you cannot. Most counselors will recommend AA, although some work from a different model. Check out the CRAFT model, if you are interested in being involved in your daughter's treatment.

But ultimately, it is up to your daughter to select what program she will follow, or what rehab. Rehab can be great when someone is receptive and willing.

You are going to need support, too. You might want to try at least a couple of Al-Anon meetings, to see what you think.