If you could turn one person on to SLing, who would it be?

[Ultralight]

If you could turn one person on to simple living and/or minimalism, would would it be? And why?

A spouse? Parent? Friend?

[corkym]

A close relative. He at one time worked with the less fortunate. That was his life goal. He always was of service to others until he reached his 50's and married a certain person. He didn't realize her values were different than his and each year that went by he slowly started accomodating her I think to probably just do away with the nagging. Its like he gave up. She has to have the latest furnishings, the best vehicles, the best wardrobe, the best of everything. Then she has to show everyone the pictures of her latest purchases. She has a blind spot when you talk about the homeless or others who aren't affluent like her. Its like she just doesn't get it that there are hurting people out there. It hurts our heart to see him have to settle like he has. He has stood up to her before and lets just say that didn't go over very well. He takes his marriage very seriously and feels responsible so he will never leave her. But again, that is his choice. You have to weigh what is more important to you. Just be very very careful on who you select for a lifetime mate.

[Float On]

My husband. He spends a lot on musical instruments, recording gear, and he isn't willing to downsize yet.

[Ultralight]

A close relative. He at one time worked with the less fortunate. That was his life goal. He always was of service to others until he reached his 50's and married a certain person. He didn't realize her values were different than his and each year that went by he slowly started accomodating her I think to probably just do away with the nagging. Its like he gave up. She has to have the latest furnishings, the best vehicles, the best wardrobe, the best of everything. Then she has to show everyone the pictures of her latest purchases. She has a blind spot when you talk about the homeless or others who aren't affluent like her. Its like she just doesn't get it that there are hurting people out there. It hurts our heart to see him have to settle like he has. He has stood up to her before and lets just say that didn't go over very well. He takes his marriage very seriously and feels responsible so he will never leave her. But again, that is his choice. You have to weigh what is more important to you. Just be very very careful on who you select for a lifetime mate.

This sounds like a sad situation. :/

My husband. He spends a lot on musical instruments, recording gear, and he isn't willing to downsize yet.

What do you suppose are his reasons for not wanting to downsize and for spending so much on instruments and recording gear?

[Radicchio]

DH---he is certainly not extravagant, but as we have been discussing and planning to downsize, I have found that we are pretty far apart in what we consider would be appropriate. Still discussing and still negotiating, though.

[Ultralight]

DH---he is certainly not extravagant, but as we have been discussing and planning to downsize, I have found that we are pretty far apart in what we consider would be appropriate. Still discussing and still negotiating, though.

Redocchio: Can you reveal a little bit of the negotiations you're referring to? What made you decide to downsize in the first place? How far apart are you exactly? Thanks. I think maybe your insights could help others...

[corkym]

Hi UltraliteAngler - Just to let you know this wasn't posted by me it was by Float On My husband wouldn't know what to do with a musical instrument unless maybe he could use it for a doorstop or a paper weight. Originally Posted by corkym My husband. He spends a lot on musical instruments, recording gear, and he isn't willing to downsize yet.

[Kestra]

Interesting question. This took me a while to think about as most people I know are either varying degrees of SL or are quite content with their non-SL lifestyles.

But I do have two lady friends who, due to family circumstances generally beyond their control, are in houses that are more than they can easily handle - financially and/or maintenance-wise. They also both like to shop. I'd love to help them move into more reasonable rental accommodations, do a good budget, work on the psychological aspect of over-spending, introduce FI concepts, etc, but it's not my business.

[Ultralight]

corkym: I went back and changed it to Float On. Sorry for the confusion.

[Ultralight]

Interesting question. This took me a while to think about as most people I know are either varying degrees of SL or are quite content with their non-SL lifestyles.

But I do have two lady friends who, due to family circumstances generally beyond their control, are in houses that are more than they can easily handle - financially and/or maintenance-wise. They also both like to shop. I'd love to help them move into more reasonable rental accommodations, do a good budget, work on the psychological aspect of over-spending, introduce FI concepts, etc, but it's not my business.

I am intrigued by people who are content with their non-SL lifestyles. What makes them tick? Why does it work for them but not others? Does it work for them or is it a facade?