If you could turn one person on to SLing, who would it be?

[Kestra]

I am intrigued by people who are content with their non-SL lifestyles. What makes them tick? Why does it work for them but not others? Does it work for them or is it a facade?

I don't know, but I suspect it's just like any other personality trait - on a spectrum (talking here about the people who are genuinely happy with their life).
Some people like having stuff and buying things. It doesn't make them uncomfortable the way it does you and I. We all have different tastes. Why am I okay with public speaking, but not with motorcycles? There are probably more people who feel the reverse, and none of us are wrong.

Definitely interesting to think about and ask people about.

[Radicchio]

Redocchio: Can you reveal a little bit of the negotiations you're referring to? What made you decide to downsize in the first place? How far apart are you exactly? Thanks. I think maybe your insights could help others...

Hmm ... well, I think a certain amount of negotiation is just a part of marriage. While we came into our marriage with a lot of shared feelings, goals, and ideals, we still have our own thoughts. Thankfully, we communicate well and, eventually, come to decisions we both can live with. Regarding downsizing, I feel it's time for us to think about living in a home that we can age in place in. Our home now isn't obscenely big, but it is a bit larger than we need now that some of the kids have left home. It's also 3 stories---conceivably difficult to maintain as we age. So we are considering our options. I guess I was surprised by the long list of things DH considered necessities in a home. Granted, many of the things on our list we have now, but I wouldn't rule out a house because it didn't have ALL of them. We may or may not move forward with downsizing at this time, but, thankfully, after several days of discussion DH has become less intransigent about what he views as necessary features in another house. We rarely change the other's viewpoint overnight, but gradually over time we reach a satisfactory compromise. Who knows? Maybe, once we've seen what's available out there, we'll decide to stay here a while longer.

Anyway, hope that answers your question.

[bae]

Whoever wins the 2016 Presidential election.

[Float On]

What do you suppose are his reasons for not wanting to downsize and for spending so much on instruments and recording gear?

Downsizing:
He thinks it's taking things away from him instead of freeing him to enjoy experiences.
Its also a bit of a snobbery thing. I mean, people just don't downsize in his family.
The music stuff:
I knew what I was getting into sort of when I married him. His degree is in recording engineering and music was his first love before he found glass. Now that he's retired from the glass all he thinks about is more instruments, more equipment. I think 2 guitars and 5-6 flutes would be enough but he'd collect a roomful of guitars and already has over 30 flutes.

[Williamsmith]

The trouble with guitars and I assume flutes as well, is that they are not only a functional piece for making music but a work of art. And so, they have a unique shape, smell, sound and feel. One wants to be able to pick it up or just look at it at your pleasure and convenience. Every guitar has its own personality and to part with a guitar that you have made your own is akin to severing a relationship. Albeit with an object but that object has more life than some people I know. So I can relate as a man who has a few guitars.....a session with a guitar can heal me or soothe me. I am better for having played a guitar. So I would consider it more than just a collection. It is part of what makes me....me. Thanks to Mr. Gibson, Taylor, Martin and Fender. A man with a guitar collection has a soul.

[Ultralight]

Whoever wins the 2016 Presidential election.

The more you comment on these threads, the more I think we'd get along! haha

I was thinking this same thing today while I was reading up on Jose Mujica.

[Ultralight]

Downsizing:
He thinks it's taking things away from him instead of freeing him to enjoy experiences.
Its also a bit of a snobbery thing. I mean, people just don't downsize in his family.
The music stuff:
I knew what I was getting into sort of when I married him. His degree is in recording engineering and music was his first love before he found glass. Now that he's retired from the glass all he thinks about is more instruments, more equipment. I think 2 guitars and 5-6 flutes would be enough but he'd collect a roomful of guitars and already has over 30 flutes.

Could it be that he got a rush from buying his very first guitar and he hopes to get a rush just like that first one each time he buys a new one? Just wondering. It is an interesting phenomenon.

I know whenever I have to buy anything except food (okay, sometimes certain foods) I get an anxiety attack. haha! But I know I am an oddball and I have my issues.

How do you cope with your simple life and his complicated life being so intertwined?

[Simplemind]

I converted my husband about 10 years ago when we married. He was a hard sell until he got the FEVER!

[Ultralight]

I converted my husband about 10 years ago when we married. He was a hard sell until he got the FEVER!

Simplemind: I would really like to hear how you converted him and how he got the fever.

[Float On]

Could it be that he got a rush from buying his very first guitar and he hopes to get a rush just like that first one each time he buys a new one? Just wondering. It is an interesting phenomenon.

It's just who and what he is and always will be. I guess the equation is he is to acquiring what I am to losing.
Over 26 years it's just becoming very obvious we have different core paths. We make it work.