Quote Originally Posted by pinkytoe View Post
I am dealing with elderly in-laws in their 80s (not hoarders though) but they should no longer live or drive by themselves. No amount of calm discussion makes them even consider trying any other option and they get very offended if the topic even comes up. I am advised that as long as they are "of sound mind" that we cannot really do anything to force the issue. They are adults making their own decisions until unfotunately something happens like a bad fall or car accident. Seems like if it is a really bad situation with your parent's hoarding, that neighbors or someone anonymous would call them in on a code violation. That's what usually happens in my hood when people let their houses or yards go awry.
That is definitely an unfortunate situation with your in-laws. Something bad could happen to them, and then to know it could have been prevented...

The problem with my parents' neighborhood is that they live in a "pillbilly" town. Rural, 238 people. Lots of drugs. Lots of domestic violence (none between my mom and dad though). Numerous other people in the neighborhood live just as filthy. But I don't want my parents living that way. My sister really does not want them to live that way. She aspires to have a normal middle class life and her crazy, hoarding parents often stand in the way, especially with her wedding in September.