Quote Originally Posted by UltraliteAngler View Post
It is interesting. I have asked female friends, women I have dated, female acquaintances, etc. if they would date a guy without a car. They almost universally say: "No way!"

Then I spin it on them and say: "What if the guy was an ardent environmentalist who rode a bike?"

The answer they return the volley with is almost always something like this: "I'd respect him for his convictions. But that is just not the way I want to live. So no, I still would not date him."

Intriguing, no?

The first conclusion that everyone jumps to about a guy who does not own a car is that he is some busted, crumb-bum with no money, no job, and no future prospects.


I am a little ashamed to admit that a main reason I bought my car (back in 2013) was that I wanted to date! haha
I think you have to look at the big picture. Some women may very well see red flags if a guy doesn't have a car: i.e. "He's going to be dependent on ME." Sorry, not sure if it's anthropological, but many women do NOT want a guy who's dependent on them for basic things.

OTOH, if a guy is resourceful, and self-reliant, and doesn't have a car on principle but doesn't need one, that's a different situation. I'm thinking of some of my permaculture acquaintances who are 100% in it. I can respect that. I can't muster as much respect for people who find it convenient to "allow" other people to provide for them while they shun the very things they gladly accept--when it suits them. I've known a few of those people, too.