
Originally Posted by
bekkilyn
Nope, I just know it when I see it!
Just to add on a bit after reading some of the responses is that I am not particularly a traditionally "feminine" woman. I am taller than average and tend to have a very dominant personality that I've discovered can be intimidating to many men. Also, I am used to being very self-reliant and independent. Unless a man happens to have enough of these same qualities and a personality that is *at least* my equal in the above, I get fearful of damaging him. A man needs to at least have a willingness and *capability* of taking charge even if he's not doing it all the time. Otherwise, he seems weaker than me and I'm just not very attracted to that sort of weakness.
I'm not talking about macho, egotistical jerks who require subservience. Just "manly" and courteous. Not sure how else to describe it. Again, I just know it when I see it!