[QUOTE=Miss Cellane;2

Maybe it's not so much "acting manly" as it is "acting like an adult." Dealing with your own problems as much as possible. Not expecting someone else to step in all. the. time. to validate feelings and offer suggestions and basically put a bandaid on whatever is oh, so wrong This Time.[/QUOTE]

i like that , acting like an adult. i am probably more comfortable with male feelings that are softer, but there is a difference between that and just wallowing around. i really don't want to tell someone what to do with their life, but i will talk things through.