Quote Originally Posted by CathyA View Post
Bingo! I've been reading these replies and thinking "what the heck does he even like in her?" I really don't think it's going to work...
I don't know, it might... if the fisherman will be honest about how important this aspect of the relationship is to him. Looked at a different way: she's hot (a highly valued commodity), she laughs at his jokes, she rescues dogs, she doesn't want kids, she's self-sufficient and can take care of herself financially, she admires the fact that he works hard and is educated, she appreciates how well he treats her, and they enjoy gardening together. Are these things important to the OP? How important are they?

And I do agree with everyone who has said that attempting to "change" someone is always a bad idea, and it never works! We can barely manage change within ourselves, when we try, and are highly motivated to change, and when it's our idea to change. To think that we can change others, or motivate them to change, is pure folly!