How to convince my girlfriend she does not need to go on pricey dates?

[Ultralight]

Reasons? Too many to count. The short answer is that motherhood never had much appeal for me--it seemed like a whole lot of work for a questionable return; my parents certainly didn't make it look like fun. :-D I wasn't crazy about children even when I was one. I had enough responsibility supporting myself, and I didn't want to give up my independence. I have no regrets.

I was surprised to discover that so many women found/find resistance to getting sterilized after I had my procedure done. I conferred with my doctor and returned a year later to schedule the operation. It was clear I had given it sufficient thought.

Amen sistah!

[Ultralight]

I see this all the time on Wedding Bee posts. There is a sad section called "waiting" where women write about waiting for their man to propose. Their biological clock is running out. They can't figure out if he will be up for kids eventually, or not. It's a real life dilemma.

This is for real?

[iris lilies]

This is for real?

yep,go to Wedding Bee website, the Waiting board, and see all of the discussions about "should I walk"" and setting a "walk date" if dude hasn't proposed by such and such time.

Look, biological clock is reality. It's not just fantasy in women's heads.

[Ultralight]

yep,go to Wedding Bee website, the Waiting board, and see all of the discussions about "should I walk"" and setting a "walk date" if dude hasn't proposed by such and such time.

Look, biological clock is reality. It's not just fantasy in women's heads.

Why are they so fixated on getting married though? Something like 40 percent of new moms are not married these days.


I guess that I don't understand why biological clocks are such a worry. Adopting a kid is the same thing. If a woman reaches 45 and then has a hard time getting preggers, why not adopt? That could cut down on that hurried feeling and mean she could not post so much on Wedding Bee.

[dinah]

yep,go to Wedding Bee website, the Waiting board, and see all of the discussions about "should I walk"" and setting a "walk date" if dude hasn't proposed by such and such time.

oh my word. why don't these women just propose to their significant others themselves? egads.

[Ultralight]

oh my word. why don't these women just propose to their significant others themselves? egads.

That would be unbecoming of a lady.

[Alan]

Ouch!

You would do it all again?! You did not fear complications, illnesses, or that sort of thing?

Sure I'd do it again. I'd think any man who no longer wished to procreate would take responsibility for his own fertility. That is, if he was responsible.

[JaneV2.0]

oh my word. why don't these women just propose to their significant others themselves? egads.

Because they're spineless ninnies? I would expect so, if they're on a "Waiting" board. So much of how women are socialized to act makes me gag.

[Ultralight]

So much of how women are socialized to act makes me gag.

What do you mean?

[dinah]

What do you mean?

see your post above about being 'ladylike'.