Calling heath department on hoarding parents?

[Geila]

This is going to be massively controversial. But I am going to say it anyway.

Imagine if they had never cluttered the attic. She could have spent that entire summer with her husband instead of cleaning.

Now, some might say she could have done that anyway -- just ignore the attic clutter. True enough.

But then in the wake of her death her husband has to deal with that clutter in the attic. Sad.

So why accumulate the clutter in the first place? Value your time! Use it wisely.

I think you're missing something critical here: we are all doing the best we can. If we could do better, we would. This is not to say that you can't be hurt by how someone's actions affect you, but to realize that if they could do things differently, they would.

I think compassion is needed for someone who misses out on some of the good things life has to offer because they have a condition (whatever the condition or issue might be), that controls their lives to such a degree that it pushes their loved ones away.