UA - did you talk to T about how she felt after seeing your parent's place?

Also, I totally get why you would have a zero clutter policy. But doesn't that take things to the other extreme? Would you ever consider compromising a little and seeing if you can learn to be comfortable with a more balanced approach? The middle path, as the Buddha says? You'll never be like your mom or dad, and you don't have to keep such a rigid hold on yourself to prevent it from happening. It's not gonna happen. You're not them.