Quote Originally Posted by iris lilies View Post
Its not your responsibility to give her peace. She is the agent of that hoard, she has to live with the consequences.

The hoard will still be there when you all have better health and can tackle it then.
I agree with this.

Also: Allowing yourself to be continually roped into working on this "with" or "for" her will likely not change her behavior. She will continue to hoard, most likely.

A common trapped that children of hoarders fall into is "helping" their parents clean. They do it out of the best of intentions most times. But it is almost universally folly. Beware.