Recovering hoarders?

[freshstart]

I agree with this.

Also: Allowing yourself to be continually roped into working on this "with" or "for" her will likely not change her behavior. She will continue to hoard, most likely.

A common trapped that children of hoarders fall into is "helping" their parents clean. They do it out of the best of intentions most times. But it is almost universally folly. Beware.

you're right because we don't fight often but we fight every single time I have ever tried to help her with her hoard my entire life. Why am I even considering this? Because she's said she's not at peace with it. Well, neither am I but helping with it is only going to increase my lack of peace. thanks with help with a reality check. She needs to do this alone with the cleaning lady if it bothers her so much.