The Daily Rave

[rosarugosa]

I'm sorry Tybee; that sounds so distressing. So glad she is in a better place. Good job!

[razz]

The new facility got my mother to take a shower--it took them a week, but they did it.

She had been wearing the same clothes, day and night, at the old place, for over 4 weeks. When my husband and I were moving her things out, we found trash and old food everywhere. One of her nightgowns hanging in the closet smelled so bad it made me sick.

(It has been my mission, since I arrived here, to get her out of that place, and I had to fight my brothers every step of the way, as they kept telling me "they are doing such a good job with her." I was ready to call Adult Protective Services. She was so stressed that she actually hit someone.

Today, at the new place, she was actually happy and relaxed.

So glad that you were there to support her to ensure that she is safe and 'feels cared for' as well as is cared for. Well done!

[catherine]

Tybee, I'm so glad she is in a stable, well-staffed place with the best care, and that she is adapting well!! It must be such a load off your mind!

The discussions here lately around the difficulty of dealing with parents with dementia made me want to read the book Still Alice. I saw the movie, but from what I understand, the book (which is usually better than the movie anyway) is written from the Alice's POV. Hard to accomplish that in a movie, but apparently the author has a degree in neuroscience and she interviewed tons of patients to get their perspective on the journey. She also distinguishes between "sympathy" and "empathy" and that her book is really focused on empathy--being "with" the person on their journey.

I've been trying delayed gratification with my one-click Amazon trigger finger, but it's been 3 days now since I've had the urge to get the kindle version. I may go ahead with it, after I check my local library.

[Tybee]

Thank you, guys, it was a tremendous relief and takes away much stress!

[happystuff]

That is so good, Tybee! Glad things are working out.

[Tybee]

Thanks, happystuff!

[nswef]

Tybee, I'm so happy she is doing better. Maybe you can relax a bit.

[Tybee]

Tybee, I'm so happy she is doing better. Maybe you can relax a bit.

Thank you! Once we figure out where we're living, that will help on the stress front.

[Teacher Terry]

That’s great news Tybee!!

[razz]

Thank you! Once we figure out where we're living, that will help on the stress front.

Tybee, from the little that we know, it seems that the move was necessary to sort things out for your mother. Such levels of support are almost impossible from a distance. It was a needed move.

In addition, it gave you an opportunity to consider alternatives to Michigan; again, some important experience to help sort out your priorities going forward. You really are in a strong position. Housing prices are going up whatever you decide. Give yourselves credit for being smart, capable and able to sort out the next step.