The Daily Peeve / Rant

[happystuff]

Nothing to add, but loving this!

[iris lilies]

IL: Do you follow Drennon Davis on social media? His male cats frequently wear dresses and tutus, and they are very cute. However, I personally am partial to their lobster costumes. I might just know all the lyrics to "Lobster Doug."

I had not heard of him and I looked him up. He’s crazy with his four cats. That cat Newt is something!

[rosarugosa]

Here's a rant: I dug out the copy of Mom's will that she gave me about 40 years ago. It is unsigned, and there is no signed version to be found among her chaotic files and paperwork. The solo practitioner attorney who prepared it for her is 98 years old. I'm writing to see if he has a signed copy, but I'm not holding my breath. Apparently we'll still be OK without it. The will basically says everything goes to her two daughters, and that is what the rules of inheritance would dictate without a will. Nevertheless, it is annoying that she went through the trouble of having a will drawn up and left this critical component undone. I probably should have noticed that the will was unsigned way back when, but I honestly didn't pay enough attention because who could even imagine Mom ever dying back then?

[Tybee]

Here's a rant: I dug out the copy of Mom's will that she gave me about 40 years ago. It is unsigned, and there is no signed version to be found among her chaotic files and paperwork. The solo practitioner attorney who prepared it for her is 98 years old. I'm writing to see if he has a signed copy, but I'm not holding my breath. Apparently we'll still be OK without it. The will basically says everything goes to her two daughters, and that is what the rules of inheritance would dictate without a will. Nevertheless, it is annoying that she went through the trouble of having a will drawn up and left this critical component undone. I probably should have noticed that the will was unsigned way back when, but I honestly didn't pay enough attention because who could even imagine Mom ever dying back then?

This happened to my brother in Cambridge, and he got a lawyer and opened probate and it all went fine without having the signed will. I think hers might have evem been a holographic will, not prepared by an attorney. I think probate went pretty smoothly; it's closed now and it's been two years.

[iris lilies]

We have a story about an unsigned will.

DH’s father originally left his estate equally divided amoung all of his 5 children in a fully executed will. Then somewhere along the way, he decided to leave his farm, the bulk of his estate, to his youngest son who was living in his town and helping him farm it.
But—he never executed the will, just had it drawn up.

4 of the 5 children did not know about the new will. One of them, the problem sibling, would have been apoplectic with fury since she always felt shorted (and later caused trouble in court even when treated equally by the original will)

The youngest son who would have inherited the most did not contest the original will. Thank God.

*If* the youngest son had inherited the farm he would have been able to farm it only for about 6 years because he had cancer and recently died. “His” farm would have gone to his son and/or his 2nd wife because she would have gone to court over it. Just like right now she is expected to challenge the dead son’s will where he left his portion of the farm to his own son by 1st wife. This kids has no interest in farming.

it is all just stupid.

sell the damn farm. With every iteration of ownership it gets broken up and each piece less valuable.

[catherine]

It's interesting how people think about their estates. My grandfather's will stipulated that when he died, his assets should be split among his children or their heirs. So, he and my grandmother had five kids. By the tie my grandfather died, two of the children had died: my father, and his brother who had one child, who was adopted by my father. So, my brother (blood cousin) got the whole chunk from his father and my brothers and I split my father's share three ways. I'm not sure if that's standard. My grandfather could have simply split his estate across his surviving children and cut the four of us 2nd generationers out completely.

In an interesting twist, one of the surviving sons, my uncle, remarried and left his share to his new wife. None of his four kids got a penny. One of the kids had been in construction with his father for years--he took the stepmother to court, but lost. One of the other kids, a cousin I am close to, has very little money in her old age, and she keeps hoping that the stepmother dies soon so that maybe she'll get the dregs of the inheritance. The stepmother is still alive, well into her 90s.

Intergenerational wealth is so interesting and so fraught with pitfalls.

[IshbelRobertson]

My daughter and son-in-law live on the Greek island of Corfu. The Greeks, like many European countries, sent immigrants to various nations around the globe, many more than 100 years ago. Over the years the wills were still ensuring some later generations who had never lived in Greece were willed their share, BUT many could not be traced. There is a TINY strip of land right next to their villa. It is only about 30m long and 15m wide. My daughter would like to buy it to enlarge their garden, but noone seems to know who owns it! There’s a little old lady in her 90s in the village who owns a different tiny plot near her own home. She thinks the owner lives in Canada somewhere.
She comes and tries to strim the grasses and weeds, but my son in law does it for when he does his own. There are hundreds of these tiny plots, all over Greece.

[Tybee]

It's interesting how people think about their estates. My grandfather's will stipulated that when he died, his assets should be split among his children or their heirs. So, he and my grandmother had five kids. By the tie my grandfather died, two of the children had died: my father, and his brother who had one child, who was adopted by my father. So, my brother (blood cousin) got the whole chunk from his father and my brothers and I split my father's share three ways. I'm not sure if that's standard. My grandfather could have simply split his estate across his surviving children and cut the four of us 2nd generationers out completely.

It's the difference between per stirpes and per capita inheritance, and per stirpes seems to be the standard.

[catherine]

It's the difference between per stirpes and per capita inheritance, and per stirpes seems to be the standard.

Gee, you know your stuff!

[Tradd]

my second rant of the day is that it’s very irritating when people tell me to “ Get over it”

hahaha just kidding

whenever I put anything on my cat’s body, including even a simple collar, she immediately paws frantically at it to get it off of her body. I’m so fearful if there’s ever a time when she has to wear a cone due to surgery. We would have a sedate her.

I like dressing up my cats and I haven’t done it for years. My boy cat would not look appropriate in girls clothes which are the only clothes I would want to use.

I've seen some people use a type of onesie for pets that can't tolerate a cone.