Well, normally I would just let them have it, but dd gets very defensive about dsil if I get a little upset. Then she chronicles every time in my life that I left anything sitting anywhere. It just really isn't worth it. So I am just going to quit cleaning up after them. If I can't cook because the dishes are dirty, so be it. If people come over and see the fur coat on the bathroom sink, I hope they are embarassed. That's just the way it is going to have to be.