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Rosa sorry you had so much trouble but the way you wrote it was pretty amusing.
rosarugosa
1-18-21, 7:31am
Rosa sorry you had so much trouble but the way you wrote it was pretty amusing.
I try to always look at the bright side, and I subscribe to the philosophy that if you can't laugh at yourself, you are pretty much screwed! :laff:
I try to always look at the bright side, and I subscribe to the philosophy that if you can't laugh at yourself, you are pretty much screwed! :laff:
Words to live by, for sure. Glad your life is back to normal.
iris lilies
1-25-21, 7:12pm
Someone kicked in the man-door on our garage and took some power tools and a few hand tools.
This is only the second time in 32 years here we have had a break in, so that track record isn’t bad. And I have to say that in tiny safe Hermann, somebody broke into one of our sheds and took a power tool.
A difference between the two break-ins is that here in the city the police just call us back with a report number should we wish to file insurance claim, but of course we won’t do that. In Hermann, the police knew the perp Because I had already picked them up for similar crimes. They invited DH to come down to their evidence room/vehicle garage and pick up his power tool because they had it.
The worst thing was popped the hood of my little red car and tried to start it up but they were unable. They didn’t hurt the car and they didn’t figure out how to steal it so that’s good. That would’ve been tragic, I would’ve been so sad about that.
We have had many petty crimes though, crimes of opportunity some of them such as once I left the garage door open and someone darted in and took a power tool. We’ve had other things lifted from our yard, that’s a constant battle. And mail theft of course and etc. on the little things.
Moving boxes. I don't know why we have this stuff, why we moved it, why we are here, why any of it. Told myself one box a day, then two boxes a day, did four boxes yesterday and I am not really getting anywhere with it.
You are at a stressful time in your life, Tybee. Take a time out to be kind to yourself. Do something fun today. Plan something simple and fun for yourself every day. Moving is really hard work. Rebuilding a life and routine in a new community is challenging. Been there and done that a lot in my life. Hugs!!!
You are at a stressful time in your life, Tybee. Take a time out to be kind to yourself. Do something fun today. Plan something simple and fun for yourself every day. Moving is really hard work. Rebuilding a life and routine in a new community is challenging. Been there and done that a lot in my life. Hugs!!!
Thank you
Teacher Terry
1-26-21, 10:58am
I have moved so many times and started over. I would focus on the motivation for moving which was to live by your kids and grandchildren. It’s a bonus living by your parents for as long as you have them. I like to unpack quickly so I can settle in. My sister is the opposite and does it slowly. Do whatever works for you. I had only one friend ask if I was moving back to my hometown. I never even considered it. Yes I would have 3 friends and my aunt and cousin but I left in 1993 so my life is here. Many move in retirement and make friends and a good life. Once the pandemic is over I would join some groups to meet people. I would certainly enjoy being your friend and many others will also.
Why is it that the ONLY time you get drop-in visits from people is when your house looks like an episode of hoarders and you look like a resident in a psych ward????
I am in the midst of an extremely busy time working--I've had to do 60 interviews in 4 weeks and I have two major report deadlines due, one this week and one next week. So I've let the chips fall where they may. DH cooks, but he's not good at clean up. DS usually takes care of the cans and paper recyclables but he left rather suddenly a couple of days ago and forgot to get the containers of recyclables out of the mudroom. Because of snow, I also had parked Christmas decorations and other items headed for the shed in the mudroom until the weather was nice enough for me to schlep the stuff out there.
Because I'm so focused on these reports, I never even changed out of my robe or brushed my teeth. So of course, at 12:30 today, I hear someone knocking on the door and getting themselves into the mudroom--my neighbors that I barely know. These are neighbors that stayed away for two years or so but this year they are experimenting with living here in the winter, like us.
They came to return a bag and a dishtowel to us--when I was away with DD last weekend, DH brought them some homemade bread and some pot edibles. Now they're going to think that all we do is sit around eating pot brownies.
I can have my house looking so cozy and pristine for months. I can be experiencing a great hair day and wearing a new outfit. I won't see a soul. Just let the household fall into chaos and that's when everyone stops by. If I had a dog, I KNOW it would have puked on the rug just before I opened the door. :(
Shame on them for dropping in without warning. I hope that you simply said, "thanks, but I am working and on a really tight schedule. When things slow down, I hope that we can connect. You must excuse me." That should cover any discomfort you feel about the mess around you.
People who drop in need to be given a boundary or they will come again because they are isolated this winter.
Forwarded spam emails. Conservative relatives are inundating my mother with this. She used to ignore these things but now that she is declining mentally she is forwarding these things on to other people, although the sentiments are ones she did not agree with when she was with it.
Example: A piece saying Donald Trump is like Thomas Jefferson
Example: A link to a 90 minute video about how someone was "saved from homosexuality, drugs, suicide, demon worship and a muslim faith" (yes, it did not capitalize Muslim)
High today will be 9 degrees, high winds and blowing snow.... wind chills -12. Snow up the keister. Sunday talking wind chills up to -35. Continued cold for the next week. Hope we don’t lose electricity..... this is freeze-to-death weather. Would have left this hellhole if not for the pandemic. Will go next year no matter. Winter sucks!!!
High today will be 9 degrees, high winds and blowing snow.... wind chills -12. Snow up the keister. Sunday talking wind chills up to -35. Continued cold for the next week. Hope we don’t lose electricity..... this is freeze-to-death weather. Would have left this hellhole if not for the pandemic. Will go next year no matter. Winter sucks!!!
I hear you. That's the kind of week we've had. The fear of losing electricity is the worst part.
Teacher Terry
2-5-21, 9:55am
I went to graduate school In Menominee and winter was much more brutal than Kenosha.
happystuff
2-5-21, 10:55am
High today will be 9 degrees, high winds and blowing snow.... wind chills -12. Snow up the keister. Sunday talking wind chills up to -35. Continued cold for the next week. Hope we don’t lose electricity..... this is freeze-to-death weather. Would have left this hellhole if not for the pandemic. Will go next year no matter. Winter sucks!!!
Yeah - still not totally shoveled out and the skies dropped about another inch this morning just to say "Ha ha - looked what we can do!".
I love this weather. I was diving at the mine in SW WI with 0 wind chill a couple of weeks ago. This weather is great because better chance of ice when I do ice diving the first weekend of March in Madison.
https://wisconsinlife.org/story/ice-diving/?fbclid=IwAR07Vgrp5NGnZi1P7CRZPC_PmDRm-90QM6i0Ts-4pDE8SoKa5TmXuXsyf5c
I love this weather. I was diving at the mine in SW WI with 0 wind chill a couple of weeks ago. This weather is great because better chance of ice when I do ice diving the first weekend of March in Madison.
https://wisconsinlife.org/story/ice-diving/?fbclid=IwAR07Vgrp5NGnZi1P7CRZPC_PmDRm-90QM6i0Ts-4pDE8SoKa5TmXuXsyf5c
so many words in your sentences horrify me--and then when you connect them!!!
This is me from diving a couple of weeks ago. One of my regulators froze to the tank and couldn’t be unscrewed after the dive. Had to do it when I got home. Water temp was 48.
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This is me from diving a couple of weeks ago. One of my regulators froze to the tank and couldn’t be unscrewed after the dive. Had to do it when I got home. Water temp was 48.
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What a great picture! Wouldn't inspire me to follow your lead, but you sure look happy in your element!
This is me from diving a couple of weeks ago. One of my regulators froze to the tank and couldn’t be unscrewed after the dive. Had to do it when I got home. Water temp was 48.
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Great pic! So nice to see someone living their passion.
My inability to say No, so I am peeved at me>:(
Biking Lady....Practice as you ride- No, I just can't. Thank you for asking, but I can't. I can't.
iris lilies
2-9-21, 11:11pm
Say No with a big smile. Or, “Sorry, no.”
GeorgeParker
2-9-21, 11:49pm
Say No with a big smile. Or, “Sorry, no.”It depends on what you're saying no to. You need slightly different graceful ways of saying no to an invitation vs no to a gift vs no to a request for you to contribute/volunteer vs a coworker wanting you to do part of their job or help them vs....
It also depends on the personality of the person you're saying no to. Some people will get upset no matter how polite you are, and others you have to hit them over the head with a chair before they get the message that you really do mean no.
BikingLady
2-10-21, 5:49am
Say No with a big smile. Or, “Sorry, no.”
Yes Sorry is (was) my go to word also :( that is something I have worked on greatly in the last year. I said I was sorry to my dad's roommate who had a stroke at the nursing home last year(pre-covid), He responded with Don't say you're sorry, it was not your fault.
Both Yes and Sorry must surely say something about my personality! Note to self.
happystuff
2-10-21, 11:54am
Yes Sorry is (was) my go to word also :( that is something I have worked on greatly in the last year. I said I was sorry to my dad's roommate who had a stroke at the nursing home last year(pre-covid), He responded with Don't say you're sorry, it was not your fault.
I still say "sorry"... not that it was my fault, but that I am sorry that it was/is something that the individual went through/endured. So I'm not sorry for saying sorry in instances like this.
iris lilies
2-10-21, 1:21pm
It depends on what you're saying no to. You need slightly different graceful ways of saying no to an invitation vs no to a gift vs no to a request for you to contribute/volunteer vs a coworker wanting you to do part of their job or help them vs....
It also depends on the personality of the person you're saying no to. Some people will get upset no matter how polite you are, and others you have to hit them over the head with a chair before they get the message that you really do mean no.
But people will get upset. I cant control that.
But people will get upset. I cant control that.
Or they will keep asking in front of other people with the goal of manipulating to gain the desired result. I refuse to be manipulated.
iris lilies
2-10-21, 2:13pm
Or they will keep asking in front of other people with the goal of manipulating to gain the desired result. I refuse to be manipulated.
Oh yeah, that too!
But I fortunately don’t run into that level of manipulation. I’ve seen it happen though to others. It is icky.
I need to vent about a friend that is driving me crazy.
She's my age. Pays all her bills via check sent by mail. Absolutely refuses to even consider using online bill pay or direct debit automatic payments. Thinks everything is going to be hacked. She apparently mails all bills at the PO, but due to the ongoing PO issues, a lot of her bills have arrived late or not at all. Mortgage payment has even been late. I suggested she go to the local currency exchange (where you can pay bills in person, get license plate tags, etc.) and pay all her utility bills there. Cell phone bill could be paid at cell phone store. Mortgage payment would still have to go via mail if she didn't do an electronic payment. Nope, currency exchange charges fees and those are too expensive.
I finally told her that unless she was willing to make the changes to make sure her bills arrived on time, I didn't want to hear her bellyaching anymore. She went off in a huff and I've not heard from her since. :D
I need to vent about a friend that is driving me crazy.
She's my age. Pays all her bills via check sent by mail. Absolutely refuses to even consider using online bill pay or direct debit automatic payments. Thinks everything is going to be hacked. She apparently mails all bills at the PO, but due to the ongoing PO issues, a lot of her bills have arrived late or not at all. Mortgage payment has even been late. I suggested she go to the local currency exchange (where you can pay bills in person, get license plate tags, etc.) and pay all her utility bills there. Cell phone bill could be paid at cell phone store. Mortgage payment would still have to go via mail if she didn't do an electronic payment. Nope, currency exchange charges fees and those are too expensive.
I finally told her that unless she was willing to make the changes to make sure her bills arrived on time, I didn't want to hear her bellyaching anymore. She went off in a huff and I've not heard from her since. :D
Oh well, she can get over it or die mad. She also needs to realize that if anyone gets ahold her of her checking account information, they can do quite a bit of damage with it, too. Checks aren't really that much safer than paying on-line.
Oh well, she can get over it or die mad. She also needs to realize that if anyone gets ahold her of her checking account information, they can do quite a bit of damage with it, too. Checks aren't really that much safer than paying on-line.
You and I know that, but try telling the anti-online payments people that!
iris lilies
2-10-21, 3:24pm
You and I know that, but try telling the anti-online payments people that!
We paid a visit to our Amish cabinet makers last week. The head guy there was lamenting the poor service from the post office. They do all their business by mail. Although they do have a very limited telephone system, their telephone is outdoors. They do nothing online.
This lack of reliable service is interfering with their business. Fortunately, they have tons of business they are backed up six months.
This is equally a Rant and a Rave.
Rave: Second technician came out this evening to inspect our new Lazyboy chair that does not work right. In 2 minutes he diagnosed two big missing screws that hold the base steady. 2 MINUTES. We have been trying to get Lazyboy to fix this since October.
Rant: First technician from same repair company told us it was not broken and was "just that way". I raised it to the BBB for the company selling something they did not deliver and got their attention. The repair company apparently sent a manager. Now we are going to get a package of parts and have the direct line to the company who will do the repair. Ends up being a manufacturing defect. Chair sent without quaility control and even without the remote.
Arggggg. Second technician said it was a good thing we kept at it.
GeorgeParker
2-11-21, 10:43pm
Our mailman dropped mail in my yard without noticing. It was something for the second house down from me and something for the third house. This happened once before about 5 years ago so probably a different mailman, but it happening even once is too much.
It's bad enough that when mail gets delivered to the wrong house or the wrong street it often gets tossed in the trashcan because it doesn't look important to the person who received it, but the mailmen at least ought to be paying enough attention to not drop mail accidentally while walking from house to house.
GeorgeParker
2-11-21, 10:50pm
Rant: First technician from same repair company...Correction: You should have said "alleged technician" :~)
My upstairs neighbors are a$$hats. The entire unit has wood floors. Someone is stomping all over the living room floor. Occasionally running all over the living room. Now there’s jumping up and down in one spot. It’s 8:40pm here and I have to put up with this until 10pm when condo association quiet rules go into effect. After 10pm is when I can call the cops. At this point, it sounds like it’s deliberate.
I’m not going upstairs because I’ve been threatened before by others who’ve lived there before when I went up to ask them to turn music down. Plus, my knees can’t take the stairs.
I don’t know if these are new tenants up there or not.
My upstairs neighbors are a$$hats. The entire unit has wood floors. Someone is stomping all over the living room floor. Occasionally running all over the living room. Now there’s jumping up and down in one spot. It’s 8:40pm here and I have to put up with this until 10pm when condo association quiet rules go into effect. After 10pm is when I can call the cops. At this point, it sounds like it’s deliberate.
I’m not going upstairs because I’ve been threatened before by others who’ve lived there before when I went up to ask them to turn music down. Plus, my knees can’t take the stairs.
I don’t know if these are new tenants up there or not.
I assume you've seen this commercial?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2Hi7NzFEOI
SteveinMN
2-13-21, 10:35am
Almost sounds to me like older toddlers running around and blowing off steam.
iris lilies
2-13-21, 11:04am
About noise: this is so dumb its funny.
I set up a Zoom meeting last week, an important one for our organization During the meeting DH decided to tear into our dishwasher in the nearby kitchen because it wasn't cleaning properly. Banging, clanging during this meeting, but shortlived. And THEN he removed the bottom rack and set it on heavy duty wash, a long loud cycle. Aye, carumba!
Couldn't get away from the noise without going upstairs.
In the next 5 weeks I have 8 Zoom meetings and will have to clue in DH to please make no repairs during those times.sounds of sawing often come from our basement, too. These Are sounds I normally like because it means something is progressing, but not during meetings!
Teacher Terry
2-13-21, 11:09am
That’s why I wanted a condo on the top floor with a elevator. I will take the steps but when I have items I need the elevator. I bought myself a wire cart that I will keep in my car and put my items in to transport. The laundry room is on the first floor so will use it for that also. I am buying a apartment dryer that vents into a bucket of water and putting it in my second bedroom. Most of my clothes I hang to dry anyways. I will wash everything at once and then dry in my condo. L
GeorgeParker
2-13-21, 7:06pm
Almost sounds to me like older toddlers running around and blowing off steam.Or more likely 7-10 yearolds dancing and chasing each other around. Most toddlers probably don't stay up that late, weigh that much, or wear hard-soled shoes indoors.
Steve, it was not toddlers upstairs. No kids at all. They quieted down about 945pm so I didn’t have to call the police.
I have a ground floor unit due to my knees.
That’s why I wanted a condo on the top floor with a elevator. I will take the steps but when I have items I need the elevator. I bought myself a wire cart that I will keep in my car and put my items in to transport. The laundry room is on the first floor so will use it for that also. I am buying a apartment dryer that vents into a bucket of water and putting it in my second bedroom. Most of my clothes I hang to dry anyways. I will wash everything at once and then dry in my condo. L
I have a Versacart that I use every day. When the black version comes around again, I'll order a spare. One of the most practical purchases I have made.
https://smile.amazon.com/Folding-Shopping-Cart-VersaCart-Water-Resistant/dp/B07JFTTBZG/ref=sr_1_4?crid=J87EJO2TJHHZ&dchild=1&keywords=versacart+folding+utility+cart&qid=1613315245&sprefix=versacart%2Caps%2C236&sr=8-4
I have a Versacart that I use every day. When the black version comes around again, I'll order a spare. One of the most practical purchases I have made.
https://smile.amazon.com/Folding-Shopping-Cart-VersaCart-Water-Resistant/dp/B07JFTTBZG/ref=sr_1_4?crid=J87EJO2TJHHZ&dchild=1&keywords=versacart+folding+utility+cart&qid=1613315245&sprefix=versacart%2Caps%2C236&sr=8-4
I offered to buy my sister this kind of a cart to replace the old one she is using that is falling apart. Her response was,' When I find a cart that has larger wheels, I will order. Trying to navigate snow or other barriers like uneven road or walkways, sand, steps etc., with those tiny wheels is very difficult." That is what many parents say about the tiny-wheeled baby strollers.
I don't find the wheels too small, but maybe a handyperson could install bigger ones. As I recall, the wheels snap in.
I might be trying it out in snow one of these days; the mail is piling up.
Teacher Terry
2-14-21, 12:58pm
I paid 20 for a similar metal cart at Walmart. Even if we get snow our sidewalks are clear and parking lot in the condo complex and I will use it to bring groceries and items to my condo from the car. I used one when I was 43 living in a condo. It sure beats making a bunch of trips carrying stuff.
iris lilies
2-14-21, 1:38pm
Our condo has a cart that belongs to the building. You are expected to use it, and then return it to the stirage room.
GeorgeParker
2-14-21, 1:53pm
I offered to buy my sister this kind of a cart to replace the old one she is using that is falling apart. Her response was,' When I find a cart that has larger wheels, I will order. Trying to navigate snow or other barriers like uneven road or walkways, sand, steps etc., with those tiny wheels is very difficult." That is what many parents say about the tiny-wheeled baby strollers.I have one of these carts. https://www.academy.com/shop/pdp/academy-sports-outdoors-folding-sports-wagon-with-removable-bed?gmc_feed=t&campid=71700000050043540&adgroupid=58700004906100560&device=c&keyword=92700057347135665&Channel=pla&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIw4TcyvPp7gIVQTizAB2b8QuSEAYYBiAB EgJPG_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#repChildCatid=6960003&ogmap=SEM|PLB|GOOG|SHOP|c|SNR||Brand-Shopping-Sports_and_Rec|Sports_and_Leisure-General||71700000050043540|58700004906100560
I bought it at Academy Sports, but they're also available at Dick's and other sporting goods stores and on Amazon. Sizes (and quality?) vary so look around. The $44 one I got at Academy Sports has a rating of 200+ pounds and 6.5-inch wheels. Or you could go to a hardware or toy store and buy the traditional "little red wagon" which probably has 8" or 10" wheels.
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DH and I had one of those older people conversations that seemed to go nowhere. We were trying to figure out how to get the wood stacked, because the guy who dropped it off couldn't get very close to the woodshed. So I said, we can use the garden cart. And he said, "What?"
"The garden cart"
"What are you talking about?"
Me, getting frustrated: "You know! You bought it a few years ago at Home Depot. You love it!"
Him: "I still don't know what the hell you're talking about."
Me, getting more frustrated: "It's black! It has 4 wheels! You keep it by your workshop!"
Him, light coming on: "Oh, you mean the wagon? It's a WAGON. A Gorilla WAGON. It's not an F-ing 'garden cart'! What, should we get out the tea and crumpets??!!"
I love how perspective colors reality.. :)
Amazon thinks it's a cart.
iris lilies
2-14-21, 2:54pm
I have one of these carts. https://www.academy.com/shop/pdp/academy-sports-outdoors-folding-sports-wagon-with-removable-bed?gmc_feed=t&campid=71700000050043540&adgroupid=58700004906100560&device=c&keyword=92700057347135665&Channel=pla&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIw4TcyvPp7gIVQTizAB2b8QuSEAYYBiAB EgJPG_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#repChildCatid=6960003&ogmap=SEM|PLB|GOOG|SHOP|c|SNR||Brand-Shopping-Sports_and_Rec|Sports_and_Leisure-General||71700000050043540|58700004906100560
I bought it at Academy Sports, but they're also available at Dick's and other sporting goods stores and on Amazon. Sizes (and quality?) vary so look around. The $44 one I got at Academy Sports has a rating of 200+ pounds and 6.5-inch wheels. Or you could go to a hardware or toy store and buy the traditional "little red wagon" which probably has 8" or 10" wheels.
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I have that same cart for hauling around floral designs and flower show stuff, but I have not decided yet if it is more trouble than it is worth.
I prefer loading stuff into 5 gallon buckets for most jobs.Two of those usually do the job for me.
I have a charming vintage English wicker shopping basket I keep in
Hermann to hold picnic supplies. It is more ornamental than practical, but it does work.
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I’ve been using those carts to haul my dive gear since I started diving. I love purple and when I have to replace current kne, I’ll definitely go purple!
I’ve had people try to buy it from me when I’ve been diving. I tell them no, as I’d have no way to haul my gear otherwise! But I always tell them to go online.
Catherine, I'm still laughing. I read this aloud to my husband who also laughed. We have had many of those conversations. I tend to use a tarp now for hauling weeds to the compost as it's easier for me to navigate.
mschrisgo2
2-21-21, 3:01am
Another rant re: frustrations of online shopping... sneakers this time. I love Skechers, I have worn out several pairs in the last 20 years or so. Their sizes are true and quality doesn’t disappoint... until now. New outer sole pattern, and tiny rocks get stuck in the treads. Of course, they will mar hard surface floors, which almost everyone I know has these days. ARG!
GeorgeParker
2-21-21, 3:26am
I made it though this whole weeklong mess with 3 inches of snow and record low temps without losing my electricity or my water and with no frozen pipes. Then today (Saturday) the first day the weather has been nice, the fan on my 25 year old HVAC unit stops working!
The central AC quit working during the summer, but I don't care enough about AC to fix it. So I was ok as long as I had heat. Now I don't have heat and there's no point cheaping out on the replacement by only fixing the heat. Bottom line: I need a whole new HVAC unit (both the indoor and outside part) everything except the ductwork. >:(
The only good thing about it is this happened after that coldspell was over and it's supposed to be warm for the next week. So I guess I should be happy about that, at least.
Teacher Terry
2-21-21, 10:51am
That’s a bummer George.
catherine
2-21-21, 11:07am
That’s a bummer George.
Agreed!!
Thank God it happened after the cold spell. And also, 25 years is a pretty good life for an HVAC system
iris lilies
2-21-21, 11:12am
Catherine, I'm still laughing. I read this aloud to my husband who also laughed. We have had many of those conversations. I tend to use a tarp no for hauling weeds to the compost as it's easier for me to navigate.
We use a tarp many times, too. We do not have a garden cart or a wheelbarrow. For my once a year a garden cleanup of my city garden I use empty garbage cans. They are plastic and lightweight so they’re easy to haul around.
Maintaining the wheels on wheeled vehicle is a pain in the ass so that’s one reason why we don’t have them. Theoretically I could borrow one of the wheelbarrow in our community garden but it’s always too much trouble to go a block and a half to get them.
GeorgeParker
2-21-21, 11:41am
Thank God it happened after the cold spell. And also, 25 years is a pretty good life for an HVAC systemI know. And I haven't had to spend any money on it except a "yearly" checkup every other year and having a little freon put in it every 5 years or so. But I was really hoping It would stay functional at least until summer. By then I'll either be ready to sell this house and move back to Georgia, or ready to bite the bullet and stay here.
But there is one other "good" thing about this situation. I paid $56,000 for this house in 2000 and Zwillow.com says current market value is $178,000, so the cost of the new HVAC is a drop in the bucket compared to the current property value.
IL- We use garbage can lids to gather chestnut burrs and sticks then dump either into the can or into the woods. I used to use a wheelbarrow for everything! Now I'm not as strong.
iris lilies
2-21-21, 11:59am
My go-to method for hauling most everything is 5 gallon buckets. Even in our community garden where we have wheelbarrows a loaded wheelbarrow is hard to maneuver up and over a brick border. I just don’t like to mess with them. I like the simplicity and ease of holding a bucket in either hand, they are more maneuverable.
rosarugosa
2-21-21, 9:16pm
My go-to method for hauling most everything is 5 gallon buckets. Even in our community garden where we have wheelbarrels, a loaded wheelbarrow it’s hard to maneuver up in over a brick path, I just don’t like to mess with them. I like the simplicity and ease of holding a bucket in either hand, they are more maneuverable.
Oh yes, the indispensable 5-gallon bucket, my favorite gardening tool after my Felcos!
My senior friend I grocery shop for has been asking me to get a can of Lysol SPRAY disinfectant for months. It's been out of stock, for obvious reasons. I'd check every time I went to the grocery store. Found a couple of large cans at Jewel, the big Chicago grocery chain, where I shop (and where senior friend always shopped). No price sticker on the shelf, but I didn't really think about it. You know what it range up at? $10! Crazy! I don't know what it sold pre-pandemic, as I've not bought the stuff in probably 20 years. Senior friend was so happy to have a can she didn't really care about the cost. She has been well supplied with wipes so I'm not sure why she wanted the spray.
$10 for a big can of Lysol spray. Still boggles my mind.
GeorgeParker
2-22-21, 5:09am
$10 for a big can of Lysol spray. Still boggles my mind.In stock at Walmart $5.77 19oz. Limited stock at Target $5.99 19oz.
GeorgeParker
2-27-21, 5:20pm
A frequent annoyance is people who think parking next to a motorcycle means they can intrude on the motorcycle's parking space by letting their vehicle hang over the parking space line by several inches or even several feet. Not only is it disrespectful to the motorcyclist, but since the motorcycle was there first it will probably leave first and the intruding vehicle will be left sitting there occupying two parking spaces and making its driver look like the a$$hole they absolutely are.
BTW: I always park a reasonable distance out in every parking lot to leave the prime parking spaces for people who may need them more than I do, and yet 10% of the time some a$$hole will park next to me or in front of me with their vehicle across the line, even though there are plenty of other empty parking spaces available as there were this time.
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I have noticed that as well, GP. We have a lot of bikers visiting in the summer. My aggravation is a few of the extended cab trucks with tow-hitches that take up 2 spaces in a grocery parking lot. To be fair, most do park outside of the usual parking spaces.
My challenge lately is the high rears of the newer SUV's who park next to me. I have to back out of my parking spot almost completely before I am able to see if a vehicle is coming. This happened last Wednesday evening, I couldn't see through their windows which are too high from my sitting position, couldn't see around them and had to creep out hoping any car coming was going slowly; I was doing this all the while I am watching for shoppers walking in either direction and cars across the lane backing towards me. I am getting to the point with the large SUV's of choosing a drive-thru parking spot to avoid being stuck.
GeorgeParker
2-27-21, 7:49pm
My challenge lately is the high rears of the newer SUV's who park next to me. I have to back out of my parking spot almost completely before I am able to see if a vehicle is coming.It's the same thing with short-nose vans and tall SUVs/pickups that come up on your left at an intersection. They sit there and sit there because they're waiting for traffic to be clear in both directions so they can turn left or go straight across, and all the time they're sitting there you're stuck. You can't pull out and make your right turn because you can't see over their damn hood and you have no way of knowing whether or not a car is coming in the curbside lane.
At least on a motorcycle I can stand up to get my head above their hood, or lean way out above my front wheel to see around them, or move forward at a 45-degree angle so I can turn my handlebars and use my rearview mirror to see what's coming without my front wheel sticking out beyond the curb. In a car you can't do that, you're just stuck until the inconsiderate slob moves.
Now let's pick on the little guys!!!!! On one occasion when I parked at the front on a parking space instead parking in the middle or near the back, some moron in a small (Smartcar size) car parked behind me in the same space with their rear bumper sticking a foot out into the traffic aisle. It was one of those parking spaces with a sidewalk between it and the street, and apparently that moron thought since I was on a motorcycle I could just jump the curb and ride across the sidewalk to get out. >:( I could, and I did, but I shouldn't have had to!
BTW: Normally I park close enough to the end of a parking space so that people driving down the aisle looking for a parking space will see my wheel and not think it's an empty space. That's a common practice because we realize how annoying it is if a cager (car driver) swings wide and starts to turn into a space only to discover the space isn't empty. At the same time we don't want to park all the way back and have our bike get hit by someone who swings wide while backing out because our bike didn't register on their consciousness the way a car would have. Again trucks and SUVs with high windows are a major threat in this regard. So It's a constant balancing act. Supposedly some bikers carry an orange cloth bag with them and put it over the top of their sissy bar as a warning to people who park next to them. I don't have a sissy bar, but that seems like a good idea if I did have one.
One time while I was parked at a restaurant someone backed out of the parking space opposite mine and bumped my rear wheel! Apparently they mis-estimated where my motorcycle was because they couldn't see it over their tailgate. :0! Fortunately they barely touched it and no damage was done, but unfortunately I was inside watching through a window and couldn't get outside in time to stop them. As it was, if I hadn't been parked on the side of the building next to the windows I wouldn't have even known it happened, but it would have been bad if they had bumped it hard enough to move the kickstand and make it fall over.
iris lilies
2-28-21, 9:34pm
Arghhhgg, mom! I am mad at my mom (poor woman, ten+ years deceased.)
As part of my task of cleaning out books, I took down from the shelf an ancient Victorian photo album that contained 35 photos of an old house we lived during my childhood. The album is falling apart and needs to go to the landfill. I carefully removed the house photos my mother had placed in the album because I want to sent them to the new owners of the old house.
Well, I’ll be damned. Behind these house photos are old family photos of our ancient family members. I had no idea these were photos she had pasted over. I had no idea this was a legitimate family photo album, I thought it was something she got at a garage sale.
Thanks mom. NOT!!! Thanks so much for giving me more work than I wanted to take on. Granted, there’s not a ton of photos there’s probably about seven images, but I can’t just throw them out because my rule is I don’t throw out pictures of the ancient ones. I will have to figure out who the ancient ones are and maybe send them to people or scan them or something. I thought I finished that project years ago.
Teacher Terry
2-28-21, 11:09pm
You don’t have to do anything. Liberate yourself and throw them away:)).
iris lilies
2-28-21, 11:38pm
You don’t have to do anything. Liberate yourself and throw them away:)).
haha. Ok maybe.
The wonderful thing is that a few months ago I received a thumb drive of photographs from that side of the family, so I am guessing that this one of the grand old man, the great great grandfather of us all, is on that drive as well and he is the important one because he’s a man you know ha ha Ha. If I can’t figure out who these women are I just might throw them away because as I tell myself, it’s pretty useless if we don’t know who these people are.
I'll bet finding them was a surprise! Hope you figure out what to do with them.
Arghhhgg, mom! I am mad at my mom (poor woman, ten+ years deceased.)
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Thanks mom. NOT!!! Thanks so much for giving me more work than I wanted to take on. Granted, there’s not a ton of photos there’s probably about seven images, but I can’t just throw them out because my rule is I don’t throw out pictures of the ancient ones. I will have to figure out who the ancient ones are and maybe send them to people or scan them or something. I thought I finished that project years ago.
Future genealogists in your family will be so glad you did!
iris lilies
3-3-21, 11:55am
Kinda a rant, kinda not.
Someone I’ve been trying to push out of the position in our neighborhood board has FINALLY said he will step out of that position.
He was doing such a bad job for so long he pretty much killed a program that used to be popular in our neighborhood. He’s doing such a bad job that our neighborhood wide strategic plan had residents calling for an audit of the program he was “running.” But he wasn’t “running” it because he’s useless and ineffective.Longtime residents have been shaking their head s about it and washed their hands of the program because it’s so poorly run.
Of course I’m the only one with the fkg balls to push him out.
Soooo, are you able to pick up the pieces and restart the program or is it killed by incompetence?
iris lilies
3-3-21, 5:54pm
Soooo, are you able to pick up the pieces and restart the program or is it killed by incompetence?
That is really the million dollar question.
I do not honestly know if the program is a failure because the neighborhood doesn’t care enough about it to make it work, or if it’s a failure because he doesn’t do necessary work.
Two months ago I set myself up as the head of a committee to evaluate the program with my authority being our neighborhood strategic plan which we paid $25,000 for. One of the things that our residents told us in the planning process that they wanted this program to be evaluated. To me it’s pretty clear that there’s enough unhappiness on the ground with it that my board needs to address its problems.
The past two months I have been collecting records for a volunteer database that he did not keep up. We didn’t even know who was a current volunteer. I have acted as his administrative secretary, kind of his girl Friday, in keeping up with communications with our volunteers. I know exactly what they should be doing because I’m one of those volunteers.
I tell my board that I don’t honestly know if this is a viable program, but we have all agreed to give it our best shot and evaluate it next December. The real problem is that our board is unable to pull the plug on anything and they don’t have clear guidelines even though we have gone into it saying we want 75% of our neighborhood involved in this program.
My term of office is up in the fall and I won’t be renewing because I’m moving out of the city. Someone will have to step in to lead this program. If no one steps up to lead it, it’s dead. And really, that’s fine it deserves to die if no one wants to keep it going. But I think I’ve got a lead on somebody who would take over because she’s already told me she tried to get him to resign years ago he wouldn’t and she gave up on the whole program.
It’s desperately hard to get these idiots out of these positions. In my neighborhood the president position turns over every two years and there’s always new board members so they don’t really know how well somethings are being done. Incompetence hide under the radar.
Five years ago we pushed the head of the community garden out after she had appointed herself as the leader for 20 years. It was a very ugly series of events and there was ummm, err,mediation. My team members carried out our part of mediation, I stayed away.
That was absolutely the right move for our community garden because it has thrived since she left. We require new leadership every two years. Yes it is a bumpy road to train new people and yes they have the same ideas that we hear over and over, but that’s OK. They’re enthusiastic about doing things and they take ownership of a corner of the garden and make up it their own. Everyone gets a fair shot at getting a garden bed. These things did not happen under the leadership of the former garden diva.
BikingLady
3-19-21, 4:23am
Orangeburg Sewer Lines, WW2 cheap helping the cause. Now I am helping the economy since the product had a short life span as did my being able to flush the home we bought 20 months ago, till it is replaced next week :(
iris lilies
3-19-21, 12:18pm
Orangeburg Sewer Lines, WW2 cheap helping the cause. Now I am helping the economy since the product had a short life span as did my being able to flush the home we bought 20 months ago, till it is replaced next week :(
Sewer problems suck.
I told DH “be prepared for replacing the entire sewer line on our Hermann house because that is what we do, ya know.”
Even if our Hermann house is “new” compared to the 19th century buildings we buy normally, it is still 80 years old.
BikingLady
3-19-21, 4:20pm
Sewer problems suck.
I told DH “be prepared for replacing the entire sewer line on our Hermann house because that is what we do, ya know.”
Even if our Hermann house is “new” compared to the 19th century buildings we buy normally, it is still 80 years old.
I Hear you on That is what we do.
We have put in a few Wells, 2 Septics and 2 other city sewer lines. Water going in and out the correct way is important. I however was questioning my choices in life as I was cleaning a total back up! Waiting on quote expecting near $20,000 since going into road :(
Teacher Terry
3-19-21, 10:05pm
Some of our neighbors have hired a company to put a liner in the old pipes which cost 5k instead of 20k.
iris lilies
3-20-21, 7:41pm
oh wait...
this was supposed to go on the Rave thread. Well.I will leave it here because loading photos takes too much time. I am sad that my little doggo is gone so I ‘spose it fits on this thread...
My little foster dog, the freak of nature as I call her to her face, went for her home visit today and is staying overnight with her new family. She is a “micro miniature bulldog” with dwarf proportions.I will miss her so much!we had her for 6
months, taking her through two surgeries plus recovery of spay surgery plus allergy testing and management of same.
now she is fat and sassy. I did not want to give her up, but my big dog is unpredictably mean to her. Sometimes he loves her, sometimes he wants to hurt her, and she is too small to let him alone with her.
now she has a 12 lb Pomeranian to boss around and she is 2+times the size of that Pom. She will always win!
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rosarugosa
3-21-21, 7:05am
She is lovely, IL. I can see why you will miss her!
I hope the little princess lands in the happiest of homes.
Teacher Terry
3-21-21, 12:58pm
She’s adorable!! I hope she gets a great home.
iris lilies
3-23-21, 5:07pm
Just let me vent, puhleese!
I cannot understand, and I have lost all patience for, our neighborhood’s website development company that has told us these two things which seem conflicting to me:
Thing one: we will bring your old content over from the old website to this new website
Thing two: We’re finishing up your new website.[much content missing after 4 months of work.] Give us items for our punchlist so that we know what content to bring over.
Dude, dont YOU know what content has yet to be migrated? Do you think I have a list in my head of missing content?
That would be very frustrating!
Peeve. Common sense is totally missing. Went to Einstein Bagels for a refill coffee and a bagel. No you cannot use your refill cup but we will handle and give you a paper cup to use over at the refill station. Then you can pour that coffee into your refill plastic container. So I went to the coffee station and noticed that every customer has to handle the coffee urn handle and the creamer containers to fill their supposedly safer paper cups.
So instead of one employee handling the cup and filling it, I am actually exposed to every customer's "germs". I just thought it was so crazy and went ahead and had my coffee in my own cup.
sweetana, that’s policy everywhere due to covid. I’ve seen people try to do that at a truck stop and stopped by an employee.
(Do know it is because of covid) No one touches the refill cup but me and it touches nothing else. I place it under the spout of the coffee urn. Then I proceed to touch all the handles that are not sanitized. Plus I take the paper cup from an ungloved employee who handles credit cards and money (they did not have a card reader). The safest thing in the place for me is my refill cup that only I have touched.
I enjoyed my coffee and bagel but cannot get over the crazy lengths companies go to follow what they perceive as rules without common sense. The best in this situation would be to have masked and gloved employees (not the cashier) fill the paper cups behind the counter. But that is not their business plan.
First time we have gone to this business since before the pandemic. You can tell we do not visit coffee houses.
Our state is loosening up early April. Masks will be recommended but not mandated. Business rules will pretty much be back to pre pandemic rules.
iris lilies
3-24-21, 12:44pm
Ok explain to me how the United
states government got my bank account info and was authorized to drop stimmy money into it.
Did they use my/our Social security accounts which granted, they use to drop in Social Security payment? Do they consider themselves authorized to use my bank account now for ANYTHING?
our first two payments of stim money came in the mail.
IL do you have direct deposit of your income tax refunds?
iris lilies
3-24-21, 1:21pm
IL do you have direct deposit of your income tax refunds?
nope
besides we never have an income tax refund.
nope
besides we never has an income tax refund.
How about a direct debit from your bank account for any federal taxes owed?
ApatheticNoMore
3-24-21, 1:41pm
The usual route is via a refund, but if you pay electronically from a bank account and owe, I imagine they could have it from that too, but I'm not sure if they are using it. I can't imagine them bothering to save a bank account if one mails in a paper check.
iris lilies
3-24-21, 1:56pm
How about a direct debit from your bank account for any federal taxes owed?
No debits.when we pay the I.R.S we send them a check. So of course they have account info via that, but they do not have my permission to muck around in my account.
I suppose by allowing Social Security payments into my bank account via direct deposit, The Whole of the US Gubmnt now thinks it has access to my account.
DH does not seem concerned about this. I don’t like it.
Lots of entities have access to our bank account. Many people now set up auto withdrawals for payments and bills which is how so many Texans got screwed on their gas bill. I just went in to my utilities and stopped the auto pay feature. I had to go into the IRS site and enter my bank info for the firststim payment - not sure why they would have that info unless you were doing online taxes which I hadn't in previous years.
cannot get over the crazy lengths companies go to follow what they perceive as rules without common sense.
"Hygiene theater", a cousin to the only slightly more popular "security theater". >8)
GeorgeParker
3-24-21, 3:31pm
Ok explain to me how the United
states government got my bank account info and was authorized to drop stimmy money into it.
Did they use my/our Social security accounts which granted, they use to drop in Social Security payment?
our first two payments of stim money came in the mail.
I suppose by allowing Social Security payments into my bank account via direct deposit, The Whole of the US Gubmnt now thinks it has access to my account.Why does no one seem to understand that IL is receiving Social Security benefits via direct deposit? It's been well publicized that Stim payments are made via direct deposit if SS or IRS has direct deposit info for you. The mystery is why her first two Stim checks came in the mail instead of direct deposit.
BTW: Anyone you've ever given a paper check to has your checking account number and routing number, which means they can make an electronic deposit or withdrawal by using that information if their business is set up to do electronic transfers. That's reality. You're constantly trusting everyone you deal with to not be crooks.
BikingLady
3-24-21, 6:06pm
Some of our neighbors have hired a company to put a liner in the old pipes which cost 5k instead of 20k.
Yes I know of Liners, sadly ours is collapsing
rosarugosa
3-26-21, 7:10am
My peeve of the moment is the practice of being really horribly nasty to other Forum members and alienating them. This is NOT a game of "King of the Hill," and Alan will NOT award a wonderful prize to the one who drives all the other members away. Geesh.
Thanks Rosa. Well said and needed to be said.
It always makes me really sad when someone leaves the forum because of harassment and/or trolling. It hurts all of us, because generally we all get along, and we accept that everyone has a different perspective to contribute, whether that perspective is in alignment with our own thoughts and values or not. I don't like cancel culture impacting SLN. Look at the members list and check off how many people are no longer posting here, often because they didn't like the negativity, most recently Tammy and Geila. Rosa, I agree. It sucks.
I agree, Catherine, Razz, and Rosa. For my part, I am trying to be less negative by
1. Ignoring posts that I think are really out of line
2. Responding to the pain that I am observing in some of the posts, and expressing empathy and sympathy where appropriate
3. Refusing to talk about people in the third person--if I want to respond to another poster, respond directly to them, but I really dislike this talking about other people in the third person
That is what I am trying to do, for me, in response to this situation on our forums. Don't know if it helps or not, but all I can do is control me and attempt to be the change I want to see and all that.
But Catherine and Rosa, I agree, I want our old happy forum back.
Why does no one seem to understand that IL is receiving Social Security benefits via direct deposit? It's been well publicized that Stim payments are made via direct deposit if SS or IRS has direct deposit info for you. The mystery is why her first two Stim checks came in the mail instead of direct deposit.
BTW: Anyone you've ever given a paper check to has your checking account number and routing number, which means they can make an electronic deposit or withdrawal by using that information if their business is set up to do electronic transfers. That's reality. You're constantly trusting everyone you deal with to not be crooks.
I've done our taxes with direct pay and direct deposit for as long as it has been available. Our 1st stim check came in paper form. I don't think there are answers as to why.....
The Credit Union I have been a member of for twenty or so years recently updated their online banking sight which has totally rendered my Quicken program to track expenses completely useless. This has literally been going on for SIX weeks. Even before they launched their new website, I was having trouble connecting to the bank and lodged at least eight calls to Quicken tech support to get them to help me fix things. The fixes only lasted a few days each. Then the bank launched their new website about three weeks ago, and for the first two weeks I couldn't connect to the bank at all. Then last week I was able to connect but their new online banking program doesn't "talk" to the Quicken program correctly so now there are double entries, a LOT of erroneous information in the wrong fields; the online balances between the bank and the program NEVER match up, etc, etc.
Things this has taught me: for over twenty years the exact counting of my monies going in and out of my life have been very important to me. It was a source of comfort and focus when I was a struggling single parent. It also fed my need for control. To be able to know these things to the exact penny when everything else in my life was spinning out of control helped calm me down. Seeing my savings grow, even in tiny increments, was very encouraging to me. To find places where I could cut back on spending also gave me a sense of control. And on a really practical level, Quicken is where I track my business expenses. Now everything is all screwed up and I have no idea if or when they are ever going to get this problem fixed.
When I call the bank to get updates, I can't get through. Sometimes the phone rings thirty times before I give up. Yesterday and today after I got through the phone tree, I was caller #78 in the que. I bet their IT Department wished they NEVER launched their new program...why can't they leave well enough alone? I had NO PROBLEM with the look of their online banking platform; now I hate the way it looks and operates.
iris lilies
4-6-21, 10:12am
Siouz that is a nasty problem indeed. You explain it well, how important your banking activity has been to your life. Sorry you have to go through this!
When I call the bank to get updates, I can't get through. Sometimes the phone rings thirty times before I give up. Yesterday and today after I got through the phone tree, I was caller #78 in the que. I bet their IT Department wished they NEVER launched their new program...why can't they leave well enough alone? I had NO PROBLEM with the look of their online banking platform; now I hate the way it looks and operates.
I'm sorry this has happened, SQ. It gums up the works really quickly.
I'll guess the IT department at the CU wishes it had never changed the software, too, but (not knowing what was behind the decision) it may not have been their choice. Software platforms get outmoded (especially in today's environment of constant cyberattacks), vendors go out of business or get merged out of business, and customer demands sometimes force changes (secure mobile clients, etc.).
Long story short, they may not have had a choice in the change. I'll guess the IT department is cussing out the software vendor fully as much as customers are. That doesn’t necessarily make things any better for you, but, having been through migrations similar to this, I'm pretty sure all hands are on deck right now and they are working to fix it and want it fixed as much as you do. I hope it's soon and seamless from here.
SiouzQ, I am sorry you are having so much trouble. It does seem to be happening more and more...making me want to go back to paper and pen...but not really. I just want things to WORK! Patience.
One of my banks is dropping telephone banking. They want everyone to go online, which I consider risky. Fortunately it is not my primary bank. I hate when people try to fix things that weren't broken.
One of my banks is dropping telephone banking. They want everyone to go online, which I consider risky. Fortunately it is not my primary bank. I hate when people try to fix things that weren't broken.
I’m surprised you even use the internet at all. Not being snarky, just an observation.
Teacher Terry
4-7-21, 4:26pm
If you bank from your home computer it’s fine. I can’t remember the last time I used telephone banking.
iris lilies
4-9-21, 6:58am
Who thought it was a good idea to make beds that are so high they are impossible to get into?
I am staying in a Bed and Breakfast Inn down the block from my (nearly uninhabitable) Hermann house and while it is otherwise very nice, the bed is as high as my belly button. I have to propel myself upward to fling myself on it face first.
My friend had a bed this high and she was shorter than me. She had a set of steps to get into it. I remember one time we were all laying in her bed, DH, Me, her (we are pretty good friends!) to watch her new tv and we all had a heckova time getting positioned.
Who thought it was a good idea to make beds that are so high they are impossible to get into?
I am staying in a Bed and Breakfast Inn down the block from my (nearly uninhabitable) Hermann house and while it is otherwise very nice, the bed is as high as my belly button. I have to propel myself upward to fling myself on it face first.
My friend had a bed this high and she was shorter than me. She had a set of steps to get into it. I remember one time we were all laying in her bed, DH, Me, her (we are pretty good friends!) to watch her new tv and we all had a heckova time getting positioned.
Antique bed? My parents had one of those, with the requisite steps. I can picture you flinging yourself. :D
Teacher Terry
4-9-21, 10:49am
They are making new beds that high. I have seen them and it’s ridiculous unless you are very tall.
iris lilies
4-9-21, 3:10pm
How many complaints do I get today? Ha ha. Not kidding though.
#1: DH is putting pressure on me to choose light fixtures for our Hermann house. This is exactly what I hate, having to go through each room and figure out where the light fixtures are going to go and then pick out appropriate fixtures. So that’s one kind of rant, but I have another rant and that is it this house has 8 foot ceilings. That makes everything harder if if you want to hang pendant lights. In fact I really don’t even know if I can hang pendant lights and chandeliers. My city house has 11 foot ceilings and I never had to worry about lights coming down too low.
#2: my 2017 model Fiat spider car has advance electronics that I don’t like. For the last year and a half, I’ve been punching at the radio trying to get the stupid thing to change channels. Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn’t. It was making me crazy, and I mentioned to DH that I think there’s something wrong with the electronics. DH laughed and said “they have probably programmed it so that you can’t change the radio while you’re driving.”
WTF.What genius came up with this idea? Sure enough, when I put that theory to the test, yes I can change the radio stations when the car is at a stop and then as I looked it up, up to 5 miles moving I can change radio stations.
#3: As part of my complaint that my car has random electronic things wrong with it, I mentioned to DH that my windshield wipers came on yesterday with no provocation. Honestly I didn’t touch the knob and they just came on by themselves. Once again, DH laughed and said “it probably has a precipitation sensor and if it senses a little bit of rain, they make a swipe. “
#4: DH is right too often
Laughing at your rants, IL. I think it is great when the DH's are right too often finding it reassuring that 'I' made the smart choice in order to know about things that I didn't. You don't mention how often you have been right though.
Others would buy this car because these features are among the many other extras. Your car salesman didn't mention these features when you bought the car? BTW I didn't know that a car was named a spider. I thought that was only for 3-wheel motor bikes. Things I am learning!
RE the lights and 8 foot ceilings: I don't like hanging lights so opt for flush lighting fixtures except over the dining table. The new LED lighting options can help you direct your light to focus on highlights in the room which I think adds a lot of flexibility.
Have you considered whether you are having fans with the lights? I love these in the bedrooms especially.
I also dislike new car features and am going to keep lane departure turned off. Part of my commute involves going through a road work zone where we have to go back and forth to the breakdown lane. If I let the car take over I would be hitting orange cones or possibly construction workers. Another thing that crossed my mind is if a deer jumps in front of me (as one did the other day) and I swerve to miss it the car will stop my swerve and slam me into the deer. I think it is stupid technology, especially when not paired with a sensor that detects objects and keeps you from hitting them.
AFAIK lane departure in most cars is just a warning -- lights on the dash or a buzzer/beep or such (both of our cars are too old to have it but that's how it works on DD's Honda Pilot). I find it annoying but, then, I'm not typically dozing off at the wheel so maybe I'm not the target customer for this feature. There are cars which can drive themselves enough to correct for what it sees as a lane departure or a road obstruction but I think they cost much more than the cars most of us drive daily and they all let the driver override the car's initial action with the steering wheel, brake, etc.
iris lilies
4-9-21, 4:23pm
“Lane departure!!!” Oh no, Now I have this to look forward too I suppose in my next new car God.
The dealer told me the car will correct the lane drift but by steering very hard you can override it.
The dealer told me the car will correct the lane drift but by steering very hard you can override it.I had that feature on my last car, it didn't require a hard steer to overcome. You felt a little tension on the wheel while correcting but it reminded me of those days before power steering, only not that hard.
You felt a little tension on the wheel while correcting but it reminded me of those days before power steering, only not that hard.
Interesting. I don't remember the Pilot correcting the lane departure, just informing. Then again, my very first car didn't even have power steering (neither did my second IIRC) so maybe I just reacted without thinking about it.
All these wonderful new features coming out are interesting developments to hear about. I am waiting for my "Home, James" electric version but not much about that as yet.
frugal-one
4-10-21, 7:00pm
DH is telling me I should get a new car. He got a new Kia Soul and I hate the dash... have to use the touch to get the radio... can't see it half the time and harder to use than just pushing a button. No CD player so probably either have to get Sirius or plug in a cell phone which I rarely use. Does not have a "real" spare tire... why can't we just get a simple car for us old geezers? He wants to look at a Kia Niro????
Does not have a "real" spare tire... why can't we just get a simple car for us old geezers? He wants to look at a Kia Niro????
I appreciate my run flats. No changing a tire if I get a flat!
iris lilies
4-10-21, 8:40pm
DH is telling me I should get a new car. He got a new Kia Soul and I hate the dash... have to use the touch to get the radio... can't see it half the time and harder to use than just pushing a button. No CD player so probably either have to get Sirius or plug in a cell phone which I rarely use. Does not have a "real" spare tire... why can't we just get a simple car for us old geezers? He wants to look at a Kia Niro????
yes, cars with old geezer features would be good!
It makes it hard especially for us old geezers who are somewhat frugal because we change cars ONLY every 10 or 15 years and the new features are light years different from the old car we just got rid of.
I read Mazda is the one make without the touch screens.
iris lilies
4-10-21, 9:09pm
I read Mazda is the one make without the touch screens.
No jep, my Fiat is made by Mazda in the Miatta factory. I mean maybe you are right, but I assumed that the innards of the radio would be the same as a Miata.
Here is the article that references lack of touch screens:
https://abcnews.go.com/Business/wireStory/mazda-consumer-reports-2020-auto-reliability-survey-74296414
No touch screen in my 2016 C300.
Add me to the list of old car lover. Hubby wants to replace our Honda sedan for a new model due to some safety features he loves in his CRV. I would feel less safe being distracted by all the confusing new features and do not drive his CRV. When I could not figure out how to turn on the radio, or change the volume I knew I was in trouble. Then the darn car started to talk (bluetooth from phone). Talk about being distracted. I dont even sing while driving.
It was hard going from my 10 year old Honda to the one I have now that is 8 years old. I find the easiest way to stay safe in a car is to drive less. The drivers we are encountering are worse than ever.
iris lilies
4-11-21, 9:10am
Ok, but I’ve got to add that I LOVE the backup camera. That is a feature new for me.
frugal-one
4-11-21, 2:14pm
No touch screen in my 2016 C300.
What about the new?
frugal-one
4-11-21, 2:20pm
Recently changed health insurance so had to change docs. Had a virtual visit with doc (had to pay a co-pay) and now get an email that she is leaving. WTH... she did not even extend my prescription and indicated that all her patients would have to get a new doc to extend prescription even for the test that she had me take. UGGGH!
iris lilies
4-11-21, 2:48pm
Recently changed health insurance so had to change docs. Had a virtual visit with doc (had to pay a co-pay) and now get an email that she is leaving. WTH... she did not even extend my prescription and indicated that all her patients would have to get a new doc to extend prescription even for the test that she had me take. UGGGH!
That seems weird that she wouldn’t extend prescription, but I suppose there is some kind of professional liability in having patients on a medication that isn’t being monitored by dr.
Recently changed health insurance so had to change docs. Had a virtual visit with doc (had to pay a co-pay) and now get an email that she is leaving. WTH... she did not even extend my prescription and indicated that all her patients would have to get a new doc to extend prescription even for the test that she had me take. UGGGH!
It's her professional responsibility to be available to monitor any orders so she is right not to extend even though it's a PITA. I'm sorry this happened.
He wants to look at a Kia Niro????
The Niro is a hybrid. Definitely does not make things simpler.
Personally, I've found most terrestrial radio around here so disappointing I rarely switch on the radio at all. But I know that's not an answer for everyone.
My DH and I just don't have the same standards when it comes to cleaning up in the kitchen. He literally has a mental block about cleaning out the old bits of food in the sink trap after washing the dishes. I often find myself doing a second cleaning after his turn to do the dishes because half the counters are not wiped down, the stove top is grease-splattered, and there are hand prints on the refrigerator door handles. But at least he does do the dishes everyday, which is a huge improvement from his bachelor days where he would let them sit in the sink for days on end. I knew this going into our partnership and have mostly accepted that we just have different standards, plus he pays far more of the mortgage than I do and I do most (really all) of the cleaning to add to my "share" of the household.
But it is the old food in the dish drainer that really skeeves me out in the morning if I forget to check and take care of it the night before. I have asked him to do it several times as part of kitchen-cleaning duty but he is very absent-minded and it is just not on his radar. Oh well, it's pretty minor in the scope of things.....
It might eventually get on his radar...47 years of marriage...many things came onto the radar at about 10 years...I am sure there are things he would say the same thing about.
SteveinMN
4-13-21, 11:17am
many things came onto the radar at about 10 years...I am sure there are things he would say the same thing about.
DW is much like SQ's DH (enough initials there? ;) ). I am fully convinced that, even if DW sees the mess, her brain spends zero cycles on interpreting the visual information. At 11 years into the marriage, I hold no hope that that will change. Can't change what you don't see and I've tried plenty to aid her vision.
But I'm sure she could say the same things about what I don't "see", too.
iris lilies
4-13-21, 11:38am
Not seeing is a wonderful genetic gift!
Sometime dive buddy has been unemployed since finishing an advanced degree, about six months ago. She is in a very conservative field. Her parents are extremely wealthy and she lives with them (she’s early 30s). She was lamenting recently about how difficult the job search is and how lucky I was to find a job so quickly. She recently was posting all over her public (not locked down) FB page that she’s polyamorous. She has three partners and they have their own partners and so on. I told her I had made sure I had nothing objectionable on my FB before my job search. I suggested she might want to consider if her multiple mentions of her sex life on her not locked down FB profile may affect her job search.
She’s heterosexual and her proclivities for multiple partners isn’t covered under non-discrimination laws, I believe, although I could be wrong.
She called me a bunch of not polite names and hung up the phone.
frugal-one
4-13-21, 4:01pm
My DH and I just don't have the same standards when it comes to cleaning up in the kitchen. He literally has a mental block about cleaning out the old bits of food in the sink trap after washing the dishes. I often find myself doing a second cleaning after his turn to do the dishes because half the counters are not wiped down, the stove top is grease-splattered, and there are hand prints on the refrigerator door handles. But at least he does do the dishes everyday, which is a huge improvement from his bachelor days where he would let them sit in the sink for days on end. I knew this going into our partnership and have mostly accepted that we just have different standards, plus he pays far more of the mortgage than I do and I do most (really all) of the cleaning to add to my "share" of the household.
But it is the old food in the dish drainer that really skeeves me out in the morning if I forget to check and take care of it the night before. I have asked him to do it several times as part of kitchen-cleaning duty but he is very absent-minded and it is just not on his radar. Oh well, it's pretty minor in the scope of things.....
DH did not see things that needed to be done. He asked that I make a list of chores because he really could not see what needed to be done. That solved the problem. Things that I saw were just not on his radar and having a "reminder list" was helpful to him (and me). YLMV
frugal-one
4-15-21, 3:19pm
Went to Costco today. There were a number of things for DH and for me that I wanted to get. I got nothing and he liked EVERYTHING I brought home for him. They even had the brand he likes. It sure would be nice to have someone bring home clothes for me and not have to go shopping. I HATE shopping!
We have been without heat for 3 days. A new furnace is being installed now. Thankfully, we had a few space heaters! It got pretty cold here.
The street sweeping machine that always runs in the middle of the night, backs up with its beep beep beep, and wakes me up. I heard it three different times last night. When done in quiet residential areas without a lot of traffic this could be done during the day.
iris lilies
4-15-21, 6:15pm
The street sweeping machine that always runs in the middle of the night, backs up with its beep beep beep, and wakes me up. I heard it three different times last night. When done in quiet residential areas without a lot of traffic this could be done during the day.
In my city they certainly run the street sweeper during the day. Oh yeah, and Hermann just got a street sweeper and I heard it running a couple day ago, during the day.They run in daytime because there are more cars off the street because people have taken their cars to work.
rosarugosa
4-15-21, 6:33pm
It runs in the middle of the night here too, and I agree that it's pretty annoying. Maybe it's a MA thing.
It runs in the middle of the night here too, and I agree that it's pretty annoying. Maybe it's a MA thing.
And what harebrain decided to sweep up the sand last night when snow is coming in tonight through tomorrow and they will have to sand again?
SteveinMN
4-16-21, 12:06pm
And what harebrain decided to sweep up the sand last night when snow is coming in tonight through tomorrow and they will have to sand again?
They're going to sand? If it snowed here on April 16 (where we get five feet of snow a year) they'd just wait the day or two it would take to melt. Unless they had to plow it. But they certainly would not spend $$ on salt or sand. As a taxpayer, I'm absolutely fine with that.
They're going to sand? If it snowed here on April 16 (where we get five feet of snow a year) they'd just wait the day or two it would take to melt. Unless they had to plow it. But they certainly would not spend $$ on salt or sand. As a taxpayer, I'm absolutely fine with that.
Yeah, we have had snow all morning, and I am hoping it will be gone by tomorrow, and if not tomorrow, by Sunday.
My rosebushes I planted hope so, too.
They're going to sand? If it snowed here on April 16 (where we get five feet of snow a year) they'd just wait the day or two it would take to melt. Unless they had to plow it. But they certainly would not spend $$ on salt or sand. As a taxpayer, I'm absolutely fine with that.
Sand trucks were out in some towns - I saw them on my ride into work - but not in my city by the time I left.
SteveinMN
4-16-21, 12:24pm
Sand trucks were out in some towns - I saw them on my ride into work - but not in my city by the time I left.
Most of the winter, I hope our road clearing crews are as obsessive as yours are. St. Paul has a reputation metro-wide for doing the worst job at clearing streets. I admire their consistency.
This isn't really a rant, but it's a complaint. I am the family hermit and DH is the family ringleader. So we always have to compromise; otherwise, I'd have the mailman and the bar buddies at our house 24/7. I had a really long, stressful work week last week--probably 70 hours.
Friday our neighbors T&C&M came up and came by for pre-dinner drinks. That was fine. Last night, he invited them over again--we had a nice time, but I didn't get to bed until midnight. This morning we went to Burlington to see our son, and this afternoon, our DD and DSIL are coming. In the meantime, our neighbors that have a second residence here came for the night--they'e good friends. So DH invites T&C&M plus K&D to join DD and DSIL for DINNER! We were planning on pulled pork for DD/DSIL but there's just enough so I told him that I hope he's Jesus Christ so he can pull some loaves and fishes out of the air.
I'm just not in the mood for a big shebang today. Did that Friday. Did it again on Saturday. Don't want anything to interfere with quality time with DD. I'm tired. ..
Oh, well, it's all good. They're all good people, but my introverted self is hitting a wall right about now.
ETA: The other fly in the ointment is that DSIL doesn't know that K&D are here and he is extremely angry with K because of something he said to DSIL's mother at the wedding last fall. So THAT will be awkward if they wind up at our table together tonight.
Teacher Terry
4-19-21, 12:24am
I am a extrovert and that would be too much for me after working that many hours. Hoping it went okay.
Those online calendars that start with the present month and make you click backwards month by month to select on your date of birth vs letting you type it in. It takes a long time if you are older.
happystuff
4-19-21, 10:03am
YAY! For the plumber fixing my kitchen sink as I type!!! Boo! for the stopped up kitchen sink. Sigh....
iris lilies
4-19-21, 10:31am
YAY! For the plumber fixing my kitchen sink as I type!!! Boo! for the stopped up kitchen sink. Sigh....
This reminds me of a compliment I gave to DH last week: when we discovered that there was a leak under the kitchen sink, within 15 minutes he had it torn apart, diagnosed as a bad garbage disposal, and he was off to the store to buy a new one. Within two hours it was fixed and working well.
It is wonderful to live with your own plumber and that is what I told him.
This reminds me of a compliment I gave to DH last week: when we discovered that there was a leak under the kitchen sink, within 15 minutes he had it torn apart, diagnosed as a bad garbage disposal, and he was off to the store to buy a new one. Within two hours it was fixed and working well.
It is wonderful to live with your own plumber and that is what I told him.
That's fantastic, IL!
happystuff
4-19-21, 10:50am
That's fabulous, IL. I so wish I had a live-in handy-person! They are definitely a treasure.
This reminds me of a compliment I gave to DH last week: when we discovered that there was a leak under the kitchen sink, within 15 minutes he had it torn apart, diagnosed as a bad garbage disposal, and he was off to the store to buy a new one. Within two hours it was fixed and working well.
It is wonderful to live with your own plumber and that is what I told him.Not to toot my own horn too much but I got major props from the wife recently over something similar.
We took our oldest (special needs) grandson camping in Tennessee last month, it was the first time we'd taken the camper out this year. When we arrived at the campsite and hooked up our utilities we discovered a huge leak in our toilet causing water to spray all over the bathroom. A quick inspection revealed that a water supply regulator located at the rear base of the toilet had failed due to my incomplete winterization of the unit before placing it into winter storage. I did a quick Google search of Camping World locations and found one about a 40 minute drive from our campsite, called them to see if they had the part in stock and found they did have one, just one. Jumped in the truck and got to the store 15 minutes before closing, secured the part and rushed back to the camper. Had to completely remove the toilet in order to get access to the bad part which then took less than 5 minutes to replace before re-installing the toilet and turning the water back on.
Received major praise from both wife and grandson who were both fidgeting and anxious to try out a working toilet, although I'm still getting reminders from the wife to make sure I do a better job of winterizing later this year.
Oh the pressure!
Still waiting on my bank to fix the problem that causes third party programs like Quicken to not work AT ALL. Such a complete mess to try and figure out what I have spent in groceries this month, for instance. It's the first time in twenty-eight years that I don not have an easy handle on my expenditures but I guess I am getting used to it. But I feel like all I do is spend money on my days off running errands and pay off my credit card in large chunks several times a month.
Maybe I'll make a spreadsheet to track just the groceries because K and I try to take turns paying and I can't quite get a handle on where we're at....
catherine
4-20-21, 11:18am
Still waiting on my bank to fix the problem that causes third party programs like Quicken to not work AT ALL. Such a complete mess to try and figure out what I have spent in groceries this month, for instance. It's the first time in twenty-eight years that I don not have an easy handle on my expenditures but I guess I am getting used to it. But I feel like all I do is spend money on my days off running errands and pay off my credit card in large chunks several times a month.
Maybe I'll make a spreadsheet to track just the groceries because K and I try to take turns paying and I can't quite get a handle on where we're at....
I use YNAB (YouNeedABudget). I am insistent that DH hands me his receipts so that I can break up a convenience store purchase into his cigars vs food for instance. You can link your accounts to the software so most of it is automated like Quicken. I'm with you. If I don't know what I'm spending money on, I feel like I'm lost in the middle of a forest. I need the signposts.
SteveinMN
4-20-21, 11:28pm
You can link your accounts to the software so most of it is automated like Quicken. What SQ has run into is similar to what I've run into -- some financial institutions just don't "talk" to financial tracking apps. I use SEE Finance on my Mac and our credit union does not link through Quicken or other mechanisms. Using the Quicken conduit costs the financial institution, so some don't connect that way. It's annoying, especially when it used to work (which, in the case of our CU, never did).
What SQ has run into is similar to what I've run into -- some financial institutions just don't "talk" to financial tracking apps. I use SEE Finance on my Mac and our credit union does not link through Quicken or other mechanisms. Using the Quicken conduit costs the financial institution, so some don't connect that way. It's annoying, especially when it used to work (which, in the case of our CU, never did).
That is interesting to know that even these financial tracking apps are costing the CU's. Probably all the banking institutions have to devote considerable IT resources to enable/protect/maintain the links of the wide variety of such apps.
iris lilies
4-21-21, 9:20am
Not to toot my own horn too much but I got major props from the wife recently over something similar.
We took our oldest (special needs) grandson camping in Tennessee last month, it was the first time we'd taken the camper out this year. When we arrived at the campsite and hooked up our utilities we discovered a huge leak in our toilet causing water to spray all over the bathroom. A quick inspection revealed that a water supply regulator located at the rear base of the toilet had failed due to my incomplete winterization of the unit before placing it into winter storage. I did a quick Google search of Camping World locations and found one about a 40 minute drive from our campsite, called them to see if they had the part in stock and found they did have one, just one. Jumped in the truck and got to the store 15 minutes before closing, secured the part and rushed back to the camper. Had to completely remove the toilet in order to get access to the bad part which then took less than 5 minutes to replace before re-installing the toilet and turning the water back on.
Received major praise from both wife and grandson who were both fidgeting and anxious to try out a working toilet, although I'm still getting reminders from the wife to make sure I do a better job of winterizing later this year.
Oh the pressure!
Good job, Alan!
Fixers are good people.
Hmmm, that is interesting to know Steve. I never thought of it that way. The kicker is that it worked *almost* seamlessly for all those years (I'd get a few glitches now and again that would get fixed with a call to Quicken Support).
Catherine, you nailed it. I am lost in the morass of credit card purchases and money transfers between accounts. I use my credit card for almost all purchases because I get interest back on the Jan. 1 each year as long as I pay off the balance monthly (which I do religiously). I check my accounts each day for security sake and rely on tracking expenditures to give me a measure of control in my life. It's weird, lately, spending money on stuff for the house and garden is giving me great anxiety and making me long for the simplicity of living in the tiny quarters behind the gallery. I think I have hit critical mass concerning daily living expenditures because each time I spend money on housing-related stuff it creates anxiety, because I start thinking that if we hadn't bought a house, I'd have around $50,000 in savings by now and a much simpler life. Yet I really love the house at the same time...
SQ, I so relate to your anxiety as my late DH really struggled for a few years as I insisted on buying our homes despite the fact that we never suffered a loss but a gain, sometimes substantial. I never fully understood his level of anxiety until we bought our first farm for a ridiculously low offer that was accepted. I was having a bath, heard the phone ring and he came into the bathroom and announced, 'Now you have really done it. They accepted that offer." Two years later, it was sold for triple that price and his anxiety was considerably reduced ever after.
May I suggest? Acknowledge your anxiety as it is perfectly normal, look at the house as a form of invested currency (equity, shares. etc), set a value on the freedom from rent for space enjoyed, the freedom to use the space as you wish and the satisfaction and contentment with a foreseeable future. While it may not be as easily a 'liquid' investment as $50 thousand in the bank, a house usually keeps pace with inflation better than a $ bill, IMHO anyway.
Teacher Terry
4-21-21, 3:22pm
Owning where you live is priceless. You can make it how you want to, no one can make you move and for me it is much cheaper than renting.
SQ, I so relate to your anxiety as my late DH really struggled for a few years as I insisted on buying our homes despite the fact that we never suffered a loss but a gain, sometimes substantial. I never fully understood his level of anxiety until we bought our first farm for a ridiculously low offer that was accepted. I was having a bath, heard the phone ring and he came into the bathroom and announced, 'Now you have really done it. They accepted that offer." Two years later, it was sold for triple that price and his anxiety was considerably reduced ever after.
I had to chuckle at that, razz! Sometimes our joys are our biggest responsibilities but it looks like you really made your responsibilities pay off!
There are reasons why people are lifelong renters. My son is one. Every time our plumbing gets clogged or we talk about the roof leaking, he chimes up: "See!! That's why I don't want to own a house!" He has a point. When he shells out his $875 for rent for the 1-bedroom apartment he's had in Burlington for 7 years, he knows that's it. No add-ons for repairs, or want-to-haves or need-to-haves. As long as there is food in his fridge and he's hung pictures on the wall and clothes in the closet, he's done.
But, OTOH, I have the freedom to carve up my lawn or let it be, of painting or adding-on, or passing it on. When my house is paid off, I will have a couple of hundred bucks in property taxes and that's it. There is freedom in that, too.
The key is resisting the "need-to-haves" that are really "want-to-haves" That's the hard part.
iris lilies
4-22-21, 12:48pm
I had to chuckle at that, razz! Sometimes our joys are our biggest responsibilities but it looks like you really made your responsibilities pay off!
There are reasons why people are lifelong renters. My son is one. Every time our plumbing gets clogged or we talk about the roof leaking, he chimes up: "See!! That's why I don't want to own a house!" He has a point. When he shells out his $875 for rent for the 1-bedroom apartment he's had in Burlington for 7 years, he knows that's it. No add-ons for repairs, or want-to-haves or need-to-haves. As long as there is food in his fridge and he's hung pictures on the wall and clothes in the closet, he's done.
But, OTOH, I have the freedom to carve up my lawn or let it be, of painting or adding-on, or passing it on. When my house is paid off, I will have a couple of hundred bucks in property taxes and that's it. There is freedom in that, too.
The key is resisting the "need-to-haves" that are really "want-to-haves" That's the hard part.
Two days ago DH mentioned “we have too much money tied up in real estate” which is unusual coming from him. Usually I’m the one leery of real estate assets. According to our most recent asset snapshot we have a little more than 1/6 of our net worth tied up in real estate. I told him for the average American, that’s not all that much. But I agree it’s not good, and as we pour more money into our Herman house in the next 12 months it’s going to be more, and it will continue to be a higher percentage than we both like in real estate until we sell our city house.
I had to chuckle at that, razz! Sometimes our joys are our biggest responsibilities but it looks like you really made your responsibilities pay off!
There are reasons why people are lifelong renters. My son is one. Every time our plumbing gets clogged or we talk about the roof leaking, he chimes up: "See!! That's why I don't want to own a house!" He has a point. When he shells out his $875 for rent for the 1-bedroom apartment he's had in Burlington for 7 years, he knows that's it. No add-ons for repairs, or want-to-haves or need-to-haves. As long as there is food in his fridge and he's hung pictures on the wall and clothes in the closet, he's done.
But, OTOH, I have the freedom to carve up my lawn or let it be, of painting or adding-on, or passing it on. When my house is paid off, I will have a couple of hundred bucks in property taxes and that's it. There is freedom in that, too.
The key is resisting the "need-to-haves" that are really "want-to-haves" That's the hard part.
Catherine, I’m like your son. I’ve been in the same suburban Chicago rented condo for almost 13 years. My rent had only gone up $100/month in all that time. At $900/month, it’s at least $200/month below market. Landlord recognizes it saved him a lot by having a long-term tenant. No advertising, repainting, recarpeting, etc., every year or two.
SiouzQ, have you considered a card that notifies you of any purchase over a $$ amount you set? We find this gives us great peace of mind. I only suggest this because you say you " I check my accounts each day for security sake". However, I understand a habit.
We paid far more attention to our accounts when we were carefully tracking everything.
I bank with Chase. I can set alerts on both my debit and credit cards for transactions of any amount. Text or email, your choice.
rosarugosa
5-10-21, 7:38am
This is something that I see all too often and it bugs me to no end:
The wreath on the front door is brown, brown, brown and crispy. There is not one single attractive aspect to it at this point. It looks like crap. It is May. Take that sucker down already. It is not way up on your chimney; it is right there within easy reach on your front door. What the hell is wrong with you?
End of rant.
This is something that I see all too often and it bugs me to no end:
The wreath on the front door is brown, brown, brown and crispy. There is not one single attractive aspect to it at this point. It looks like crap. It is May. Take that sucker down already. It is not way up on your chimney; it is right there within easy reach on your front door. What the hell is wrong with you?
End of rant.
The Christmas wreath? Yuck.
This is something that I see all too often and it bugs me to no end:
The wreath on the front door is brown, brown, brown and crispy. There is not one single attractive aspect to it at this point. It looks like crap. It is May. Take that sucker down already. It is not way up on your chimney; it is right there within easy reach on your front door. What the hell is wrong with you?
End of rant.
My MIL was a fastidious housekeeper but in her later years she slipped a little and one year never took down her Christmas wreath. That year, she had to have home health care, and the person who came to visit her refused to come in when she saw the wreath. She was Jamaican and it was something about bad spirits being in the house because of the dead wreath. (Maybe the Jamaican version of feng shui?).
My MIL was a fastidious housekeeper but in her later years she slipped a little and one year never took down her Christmas wreath. That year, she had to have home health care, and the person who came to visit her refused to come in when she saw the wreath. She was Jamaican and it was something about bad spirits being in the house because of the dead wreath. (Maybe the Jamaican version of feng shui?).
That is too funny.
rosarugosa
5-10-21, 7:15pm
My MIL was a fastidious housekeeper but in her later years she slipped a little and one year never took down her Christmas wreath. That year, she had to have home health care, and the person who came to visit her refused to come in when she saw the wreath. She was Jamaican and it was something about bad spirits being in the house because of the dead wreath. (Maybe the Jamaican version of feng shui?).
LOL, yes bad spirits or bad feng shui or something. Whatever it is, it's BAD!
Gee, I'm actually in a good mood this morning at 7:40am, but I'm already annoyed by an ungrammatical meme on Facebook that reads:
"The greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people think"
Come on people! Learn how to puncuate!
I now return to my daily coffee.
ETA: Maybe I'm not in such a good mood. DH, who has recently experienced a surge of good health, has been like the energizer bunny for a few weeks now and at the moment he's mowing our lawn and the lawns of our neighbors at 7:45, disrupting my (and probably others') peaceful Saturday morning. Gee whiz!
Gee, I'm actually in a good mood this morning at 7:40am, but I'm already annoyed by an ungrammatical meme on Facebook that reads:
"The greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people think"
Come on people! Learn how to puncuate!
I now return to my daily coffee.
ETA: Maybe I'm not in such a good mood. DH, who has recently experienced a surge of good health, has been like the energizer bunny for a few weeks now and at the moment he's mowing our lawn and the lawns of our neighbors at 7:45, disrupting my (and probably others') peaceful Saturday morning. Gee whiz!
Well I'm glad he's feeling better and out there mowing everyone's lawn!
I am always marking that particular grammar error on papers. I feel your pain.
rosarugosa
5-16-21, 7:30pm
I bought two really attractive plants yesterday at a local garden center that I intended to keep for house plants. I googled the names while I was there, and they were apparently both safe for cats. Delved a little further once I got home, and the plants were labeled incorrectly and are very toxic to cats. So I will use them outside during the warm months and then find them a home with a non-cat household before winter. We were also looking for Firecracker Plant (Cuphea). An employee asked if I was looking for something in particular, so I told her what I wanted. She asked another employee, and they seemed a bit dubious since they hadn't heard of it, like I must be making it up or something. They asked a senior employee (might have been the owner). He was kind of a sourpuss and he said "I know we don't have that." They actually did have it; my DH found it. This is a small local garden center we were trying to help support, but I was not too impressed with the experience.
iris lilies
5-18-21, 1:17pm
The flower show ladies are creating a virtual flowers show with entries being photographs. Someone is insisting on printing out each photo and filing it away in her paper folders. Why? I ask. ‘Because’ she answers.
But because this printing person enjoys conflict, as a head honcho with some authority in the game, i just assured others on our committee “let her spend her own time/paper/colored ink printing out entries. There is no purpose behind her actions, but whatever.”
But now comes the stupid part: the printing person is complaining because some of the photos take up 3-4 sheets of paper and she wants to return those entries to exhibitors and have them re-submitted in another format that takes up less paper.
AYE, CARUMBA!
We have already specified the process for submitting and using photos and that specification does NOT support printing on paper.
This strikes such a chord with me because it is a circa 1985 action reminding me of the PAINFUL transition from paper to digital, when I supervised ladies like the print fiend who wanted to, essentially, print out the internet. Made me crazy then, makes me crazy now.
Too many of these volunteer jobs are reminding me of the days of work and that is NOT a place Where I want my head.
So since my bank took away telephone banking I tried to set up online banking. It took several tries due to technical difficulties on their end. Then I got to terms and conditions and they wanted me to agree that if any malware or spyware gets on my computer and wipes out my entire retirement savings I am responsible. Now I do have anti-virus software but I think a smart enough person could circumvent it. Hackers knocked out gas to the entire southeastern US. Why would I ever agree to such a thing? I clicked decline and I guess my option is to call the customer service reps every day and ask them to verify my balance which is a hassle because of all the security questions I have to go through. And this is supposed to be progress?
Check your balance at an ATM on the way to work?
Most of my commute is on winding roads, one lane each way with the occasional turn late. Speed limit is 55. A delivery truck for a local business was going 30 for most of the way I was behind him, for about 7-8 miles. There was a VERY long line of cars behind me (I was two cars behind this truck). When stopped at a light at an intersection, where I turn off this road, I took a photo of the back of the truck, showing truck number, business name, and phone number. I see the driver has his white Apple earbuds in at least his left ear. He's laughing and carrying on. I'm calling the business tomorrow and reporting his butt. There is absolutely no reason to go 25 mph BELOW the speed limit, especially when you're holding up traffic like he was.
I do not have an ATM card. I have seen too many episodes on the ID channel where someone is kidnapped and held hostage, forced daily to go withdraw money from the ATM and give it to their captor.
Anyways, I spoke to the call center manager today and she told me they are bringing in a new phone system by the end of the year and it will have telephone banking.
I do not have an ATM card. I have seen too many episodes on the ID channel where someone is kidnapped and held hostage, forced daily to go withdraw money from the ATM and give it to their captor.
Anyways, I spoke to the call center manager today and she told me they are bringing in a new phone system by the end of the year and it will have telephone banking.
Yeah, they'd just kill you instead.
I'm amazed you are able to actually leave the house and go about your daily business. You have a ton of hangups.
I admit I watch the ID channel, but I can see how it could make a susceptible person paranoid. :help::0!
Yeah, they'd just kill you instead.
I'm amazed you are able to actually leave the house and go about your daily business. You have a ton of hangups.
:~)
I do not have an ATM card. I have seen too many episodes on the ID channel where someone is kidnapped and held hostage, forced daily to go withdraw money from the ATM and give it to their captor.
Of course you are going to focus on a channel that will sensationalize the worst.
It's a wonder you can even step out your front door:confused:
Yeah, they'd just kill you instead.
I'm amazed you are able to actually leave the house and go about your daily business. You have a ton of hangups.
Or they could leave me at the side of the road blindfolded and someone rescues me.
Or they could leave me at the side of the road blindfolded and someone rescues me.
Doubt it. You'd irritate the crap out of them, so I don't think they'd keep you alive very long.
ApatheticNoMore
5-20-21, 9:25pm
I don't have an ATM card either. It was more not really seeing the need. I mean there is a need to go to the bank in person periodically anyway due to the need for quarters so I can do laundry. Can't get that at an ATM.
But with an ATM card it might be less frequent (at least if the pandemic driven quarter shortage ever ends, i can't even get more than 2 rolls at a time now). So I may reconsider the ATM thing.
iris lilies
5-20-21, 10:00pm
The only time i used an atm card was in europe. At home i just ask my banker, dh, to give me cash.
Jane v2.0
5-20-21, 10:48pm
I used to use mine all the time at stores; now that I order most essentials on line, I use my credit card--which is considerably safer. And not because of potential kidnappers...
The ATM thing started when I was married and my ex who had no financial discipline would always go to the ATM and take out money. After I divorced I still didn't get one but due to safety reasons. There are also people who wait near ATMs to rob you.
Yeah, they'd just kill you instead.
I'm amazed you are able to actually leave the house and go about your daily business. You have a ton of hangups.
Says the woman who can't get along with her parents, her priest, her coworkers, her boss, men she has dated, maybe because the first thing she wants to do in a new situation is complain about her chair.
Another one added to the ignore list.
Haha. It means I’m doing something right if I’m put on ignore by the likes of you.
Better my situation and freedom than to be trapped in a crumbling house with a mentally ill adult son and all these other hang ups you have that keep you from fully participating in modern society.
Doubt it. You'd irritate the crap out of them, so I don't think they'd keep you alive very long.
Talk about an overreaction to someone choosing to not use an ATM card. Consider the source.
happystuff
5-21-21, 10:08am
Anyways, I spoke to the call center manager today and she told me they are bringing in a new phone system by the end of the year and it will have telephone banking.
Well, when they bring it back, remember not to spend too much time on the phone as you will still need time to call and report and complain about all the truck drivers and other folks who irritate you one way or the other throughout your day. Then again, I guess it's nice you have something to keep that selfish, self-centered attitude fresh and alive in your daily life.
The truck driver going 25 under the speed limit yesterday and holding up traffic on a one lane each way road? Called it in at lunch. Boss said they had had reports from other members of the public about the exact same thing yesterday, as well as reports the driver was on his phone with phone in his hand (that I couldn’t see), which is illegal in IL.
The whole ice cream snark, ganging up on people and dumping on them. I don't see the point. It's obvious you think certain posters are stupid or obsessed or clueless. What purpose does ganging up on them with the whole social shunning thing serve? It doesn't seem to have much impact, other than to make the people doing it feel smug and superior.
Sorry if I have missed the point of this activity.
Sorry if I have missed the point of this activity.
Very simple: When constant education with facts of science fail time and again, stop leading the horse to the water trough. Change the subject.
Very simple: When constant education with facts of science fail time and again, stop leading the horse to the water trough. Change the subject.
When Tammy was explaining all her challenges when caring for patients of covid in ICU, then the consequences of herself being very seriously ill, then was posting about the consequences on her long-term well-being and financial future, the posts about its just inconsequential old people who are dying, following protocols is too much of a burden, scientific data is questionable, and so on ..., a gentle ice cream post is a benign reminder that there is another way to post.
EG of another way: when Yppej posted about problems with her car or dryer, etc., many supportive posts with suggestions to help or thoughts to consider is one example of other ways to post.
It takes a lot for me to react but enough is sometimes enough. YMMV.
happystuff
5-28-21, 10:25am
The whole ice cream snark, ganging up on people and dumping on them. I don't see the point. It's obvious you think certain posters are stupid or obsessed or clueless. What purpose does ganging up on them with the whole social shunning thing serve? It doesn't seem to have much impact, other than to make the people doing it feel smug and superior.
Sorry if I have missed the point of this activity.
I post this with all due respect to you:
Why do you assume that those who are doing it - and I'll speak specifically for myself - feel smug and superior????? I don't and that is definitely NOT the point of the responses. Each time, I am responding to a post. Stop/change/modify the posts and the responses will change. It's really that simple. But if you are going to attack or condemn responses, try starting at the beginning with the initial posts and poster.
I post this with all due respect to you:
Why do you assume that those who are doing it - and I'll speak specifically for myself - feel smug and superior????? I don't and that is definitely NOT the point of the responses. Each time, I am responding to a post. Stop/change/modify the posts and the responses will change. It's really that simple. But if you are going to attack or condemn responses, try starting at the beginning with the initial posts and poster.
I don't want to change her posts. She is free to post what she wants to.
My perception of the smug thing is because people seem to pile on, with great relish. That feels unpleasant to me, like bullying in high school. Just my perception, of course.
Each time, I am responding to a post. Stop/change/modify the posts and the responses will change. It's really that simple. But on the flip side, attempting to stop a discussion doesn't promote further discussion, it's cancellation on a small scale. And when it's done on a larger scale as we've been seeing here recently, it begins to look like cliquish behavior.
I think we're all guilty of that sort of thing at times but I think it's hard for us to defend, even when we do it.
These recent posts have triggered a serious question for me.
The Simple Living Forums goal? What is it?
I had thought it was a spot to share ideas, communicate with those interested in simple living and support those seeking a simpler life. Please correct me if I am wrong, where and in what manner.
When the anonymity of the posters is used to post without consideration of others that would violate any neighbourhood gathering with its diverse membership, what would the response of the neighbourhood be?
This is not a money management forum or such-like but a diverse group of members from all walks of life.
I am realistic and recognize that social media has changed discourse in general, other social groups undergo change, atrophy and die or move into different directions than originally designed. That is life.
Do you see that SLF has changed? How?
This is not intended as Sensitivity Police post, as Idahl calls it, but a genuine evaluation of direction for both the site and from its members.
ETA: the Simple public policy forum is unique unto itself ;)
happystuff
5-28-21, 11:01am
But on the flip side, attempting to stop a discussion doesn't promote further discussion, it's cancellation on a small scale. And when it's done on a larger scale as we've been seeing here recently, it begins to look like cliquish behavior.
I think we're all guilty of that sort of thing at times but I think it's hard for us to defend, even when we do it.
I'm not attempting to stop a discussion, but am responding as I see fit. Apparently there are several other people here that also are responding as they see fit, and also happen to agree more with each other than with Yppej. You can call that "piling on", but the fact is there are people willing to post that they disagree.
As for cliquish behavior - I will confess to using razz's emoji as a short-cut response. If you want to count that as cliquish, so be it, but I'm far from being part of any clique. :) If you can't tell by now, I speak for myself.
But, since several of you seem to think that "ignoring" is a more appropriate response, far be it from me to not take the suggestion and give it a try. :)
The whole ice cream snark, ganging up on people and dumping on them. I don't see the point. It's obvious you think certain posters are stupid or obsessed or clueless. What purpose does ganging up on them with the whole social shunning thing serve? It doesn't seem to have much impact, other than to make the people doing it feel smug and superior.
Sorry if I have missed the point of this activity.
The point is virtue signaling.
These recent posts have triggered a serious question for me.
The Simple Living Forums goal? What is it?
I had thought it was a spot to share ideas, communicate with those interested in simple living and support those seeking a simpler life. Please correct me if I am wrong, where and in what manner.
Since there's no top down structure to these forums I think the community itself gets to define what it's goals and ideals are.
I think we saw in these forums first iteration that attempting to keep a diverse community on topic, which could only be accomplished through strict moderation, created more drama and division than intended, and probably contributed to it's abandonment by its founder.
In it's second iteration I feel it was used by a non-profit as an outreach to a new group of potential supporters and when that didn't work as hoped, it was abandoned again.
The only reason it still exists here in it's third iteration is because I thought the community might want a place to stay together in a place with no un-due expectations of profitability or outreach. That's why we don't have strict, top-down rules or goals. My philosophy is that the community gets to define what it is by allowing its members to discuss anything of interest. I wish people wouldn't gang up on each other and promote division, but that happens sometimes.
I better understand the approach now. Thanks.
I learn so much, get a glimpse of the US view of issues to some extent, love watching jobs unfold, home moving accounts, life challenges met and more.
Periodically, I take a break and step back.
Alan, Thank you for the history. I've been on this forum for many years and visit it daily. There is usually something that makes me think or rethink an attitude or feeling. Like Razz, I enjoy watching growth, jobs, families, challenges and ideas of simple living. Thank you for maintaining it, Alan.
Teacher Terry
5-29-21, 2:57pm
I like that no one is censored.
The whole ice cream snark, ganging up on people and dumping on them. I don't see the point. It's obvious you think certain posters are stupid or obsessed or clueless. What purpose does ganging up on them with the whole social shunning thing serve? It doesn't seem to have much impact, other than to make the people doing it feel smug and superior.
Sorry if I have missed the point of this activity.
I think you’re right. It’s a sort of pack behavior thing that doesn’t add anything to the discussion. I also have little use for “+1” posts for the same reason. If you agree, say why. Otherwise it’s just another form of piling on without providing any sort of argument or counter argument.
iris lilies
6-1-21, 1:53pm
I like that no one is censored.
I agree with both Jeppy and Teacher Terry.
The point of ice creaming is virtue signaling. I know because I do it myself to signal to my tribe “I’m with you.” A Reddit upvoting button does the same.
I also like the fact that no one is censored even if there is too much ice creaming and some pretty repetitive posts coming out of certain posters, me included. You all can joke all you like about salad spinners, but we really don’t talk about salad spinners often maybe, what, once every two years? And we really have not had a serious debate about them in quite a long time.
I post on ice cream threads because I like to tweak people who don't like their chocolate adulterated with fruit, and vice versa. I also generally drop a comment related to the original topic. How's that for virtue signalling? :D
Clearly a micro aggression aimed at the culinarily sensitive. Besides, ice cream is for lightweights, and advanced palates prefer frozen custard.
Clearly a micro aggression aimed at the culinarily sensitive. Besides, ice cream is for lightweights, and advanced palates prefer frozen custard.
I'm pretty catholic when it comes to frozen desserts, though lapsed otherwise. I wonder if there's a frozen custard version of Mandarin Orange...
I’d like to ream whoever does the pickups of blood for testing for my doctor’s office. I had blood drawn Monday. Stupid people never picked it up. Now they want me to come back in. Absolutely not. They lost their chance. I was two hours late on Monday to work due to this. I’m having to work extra the rest of the week to make up for coming in late. I’m not going to go through that again next week. I told them I’ll call them when I’m able to come in and it’s probably going to be a good while.
Clearly a micro aggression aimed at the culinarily sensitive. Besides, ice cream is for lightweights, and advanced palates prefer frozen custard.
Guess I am not advanced since I dislike frozen custard.
Saw the evil ex at the gas station. Why can't the world be a bigger place? I like this gas station but now I'm going to start going elsewhere.
Saw the evil ex at the gas station. Why can't the world be a bigger place? I like this gas station but now I'm going to start going elsewhere.
Why can't you just ignore and go on with your life?
Why can't you just ignore and go on with your life?
I am going on with my life. I am not foregoing the use of gas.
If someone stole from your disabled child would you want to see that person?
As I recall you are liberal. How you feel about running into Donald Trump? Would it make you cringe? Would you try to avoid Trump Tower, Mar-a-Lago, or other places where you might run into him?
iris lilies
7-2-21, 5:52pm
Here is my peeve: I opened a bottle of 2012 Merlot from Columbia Winery. I usually like the Columbia Valley red wines. I always like Merlot.
This was not drinkable. There was sediment in it but that really is not a problem it was just —not good.I even set it aside for a few days in case that first sip was not indicative of the entire bottle. UGG.
I am going on with my life. I am not foregoing the use of gas.
If someone stole from your disabled child would you want to see that person?
As I recall you are liberal. How you feel about running into Donald Trump? Would it make you cringe? Would you try to avoid Trump Tower, Mar-a-Lago, or other places where you might run into him?
You recall wrong. I am an independent. I would not go out of my way for trump. I would just ignore his ugly a$$. He is not worth the effort of recognizing or even acknowledging. He no longer has the power to affect my life.
Recently met a guy that used to be a friend at a garage sale. I stood right next to him and said not a word. The only way people can get †o you is if you let them. Your ex won because he still affects you.
You recall wrong. I am an independent. I would not go out of my way for trump. I would just ignore his ugly a$$. He is not worth the effort of recognizing or even acknowledging. He no longer has the power to affect my life.
Recently met a guy that used to be a friend at a garage sale. I stood right next to him and said not a word. The only way people can get †o you is if you let them. Your ex won because he still affects you.
Did Eichmann win at his trial because he was stonefaced and occasionally had a flicker of a smile? Did his victims during that trial, shaken by Eichmann's crimes, lose?
Or is your interpretation facile and dismissive of victimized people?
I have heard people with your mentality before dismissing victim discomfort.
"So a priest touched your a$$, get over it" or dismissing MeToo concerns.
Good to know what type of person you are.
Maybe you could travel to Surfside and offer your amateur counseling there - they're obviously dead, give up the false hope, get over it, get on with your lives, don't let those who ignored the building reports win by being affected.
yeppj... you infer too much.... therein lies your problem. You will always be a victim.
Saw the evil ex at the gas station. Why can't the world be a bigger place? I like this gas station but now I'm going to start going elsewhere.
I was in that mind frame too... I changed where I shopped. where I showed my horses etc ( he kept his horse in the area) etc..... Until I finally realized that he is a miserable person and treats everyone else the same way he treated me. It was not about me... Since I found out that he treated other women the same way, it became non personal to me. That was very freeing
Back story: we got married, it ended 7 years later. The house we were in was the love of my life. I was able to cash him out ( Thank You Gramma ) He had to be out by Oct. He drug his feet until he was threatened with involvement if the law. And because he was the KING of passive aggressive, he moved out, leaving a mess for me to clean up .. And the ultimate move of passive aggressive, he rented a house 1/2 mile from me, on the same street. The freeway was closer him by going north. I would see him going south past my place to go to the freeway. And yes, I would see him rubberneck to see if I was outside or what was going on with the house. The area that I worked my horses was parallel to the road, so I saw him drive by often. It was a very impowering moment for me . I began shopping where I used to, I started showing back at where he had his horse. I moved on... And that is an awesome feeling
Teacher Terry
7-3-21, 4:57pm
Boss mare, good for you taking charge of your life!
Boss mare, good for you taking charge of your life!
Thank You. I found that by going about your business and ignoring them gives me the power.
also... quite awhile ago, I posted on the Family and Relationships section that I was listed as deceased on my high school memorial FB page. September 2019 was our 40th high school reunion . My first husband ( the passive aggressive on was #2 ) was there . I ignored him too. and here he thought I was dead LOL. Jeppy.... Ya gotta try and find the humor in things
I did ignore him and he ignored me. But I still would rather not run into him. I want to fill my life with positivity as much as possible.
I did ignore him and he ignored me. But I still would rather not run into him. I want to fill my life with positivity as much as possible.
It was most likely a one-off chance that he was there. Now... Lets look at this a step further. What if he decides to got to a different gas station because he saw you. And you go to a different one. And this different one turns out to be the one you both inadvertently decide to frequent. Then what? best thing to do is ignore him. There is a saying "Living Well Is The Best Revenge"
It was most likely a one-off chance that he was there. Now... Lets look at this a step further. What if he decides to got to a different gas station because he saw you. And you go to a different one. And this different one turns out to be the one you both inadvertently decide to frequent. Then what? best thing to do is ignore him. There is a saying "Living Well Is The Best Revenge"
Usually I get gas on the way home but there was a storm so I went in the morning. So if I go in the evening plus somewhere else I should be doubly good. The last I knew he didn't have a car and he was buying snacks and drinks not gas. So if I go a couple miles away I likely will not see him.
And I was glad I had put on weight, let my hair go gray, and was dressed unattractively. Living well I might still be attractive to him and I want to repel him.
The only sure thing besides death and taxes is the other shoe dropping when things are doing well.
Just need to get in the habit of not getting overly excited about something, as when something is going well, the other shoe drops sooner than later.
Not work related. I can't discuss it.
The function to spray windshield washer fluid on my new car doesn't work. There was also no washer fluid in it. I put some I had in and it still doesn't work. Here goes another Saturday at the dealership.
Tradd, whatever it is, I hope it resolves quickly and easily for you.
The only sure thing besides death and taxes is the other shoe dropping when things are doing well.
Just need to get in the habit of not getting overly excited about something, as when something is going well, the other shoe drops sooner than later.
Not work related. I can't discuss it.
Wishing you a peaceful resolution. You are fully equipped to handle whatever unfolds; you know that as you have dealt with so much and come through ahead. Go girl!
iris lilies
7-12-21, 10:40am
Minor rant, not really rant worthy, but a comment on society: why are people so afraid of color in their homes?
We visited 3 homes last Saturday night in a progressive dinner. Each one was decorated in various shades of light grey. Grey floors for the most part. Grey or white kitchen cabinets. All houses have been decorated over a 3 year period.
“They have good taste!” Said my friend with good taste about one of these houses.
They do?
The single piece of decor I really remember in these houses was a set of dining room chairs upholstered in mustard yellow. Finally, some color.
This year my friend with good taste ripped out his fabulous lacquer red kitchen cabinets to put in the ubiquitous white Shaker kitchen. He painted his first floor grey (surprise!) from the formerly wonderful chartreuse. I am thinking he doesn’t have good taste any more, he has joined the ranks of the Grey people.
please understand I LOVE grey as a neutral and absolutely love white kitchens and if these choices weren’t in every damn house that is what I would have chosen for my condo. But, I just can’t do it, my condo needs some personality.
While I can understand your rant, I have to disagree somewhat. I love the neutral colours to act as a canvas to which I add colour in flowers, bright placemats, plants, bright plates on the wall, etc. My kitchen cupboards are a very dark brown which I like but it is hard to keep dust-free when the sun shines on it.
iris lilies
7-12-21, 11:58am
While I can understand your rant, I have to disagree somewhat. I love the neutral colours to act as a canvas to which I add colour in flowers, bright placemats, plants, bright plates on the wall, etc. My kitchen cupboards are a very dark brown which I like but it is hard to keep dust-free when the sun shines on it.
I got nuttin’ against neutral backgrounds if they serve as foil for colored objects.
Also, neutral decor with lots of texture and contrast is great.
These weren’t that, although I will say that a custom designed-by-owner center hall chandelier was pretty groovy, and bright in multi color.
Or neutral walls and floors with interesting furniture and art…one of my friends has that. I cannot even tell you the color of their walls, some sort of white I suppose. But they have stunning antique pieces and big art.
it is just when everything is grey and smooth Um, no.
"Minor rant, not really rant worthy, but a comment on society: why are people so afraid of color in their homes?"
I agree--I'd like to see lots more variation in decorating trends out there, but people are timid and don't like to fall too far out of line. But I say that as one whose house has ivory walls and no discernible decor at all, so I'm hardly an arbiter of taste. Having said that--red lacquer cabinets!! I would love those.
I think color intimidates people in general, judging by my quilting experience. There were quilters who consistently worked with a palette of about four colors, over and over and over, and other's who just copied quilt shop samples color for color.
Teacher Terry
7-12-21, 1:47pm
Those red cabinets sound beautiful. In my bedroom I always have a bright drama wall. Right now it’s pink. I always add color with accents mainly because if I change something expensive I am not going to do it twice. Also on average I only own a place for 6 years so need to appeal to the masses.
iris lilies
7-12-21, 1:49pm
"Minor rant, not really rant worthy, but a comment on society: why are people so afraid of color in their homes?"
I agree--I'd like to see lots more variation in decorating trends out there, but people are timid and don't like to fall too far out of line. But I say that as one whose house has ivory walls and no discernible decor at all, so I'm hardly an arbiter of taste. Having said that--red lacquer cabinets!! I would love those.
I think color intimidates people in general, judging by my quilting experience. There were quilters who consistently worked with a palette of about four colors, over and over and over, and other's who just copied quilt shop samples color for color.His red lacquer cabinets were designed by a European architect (another neighbor) and they were on a track to be movable. That was silly but fun.
The lacquer cabinets were epic and were featured in a local decor magazine. I had them in mind for my condo before I decided on traditional. At one point I was going to hit art deco theme pretty heavily. Lacquer fits well into art deco.
Anyway – the red lacquer cabinets and the lack of color at his place marks the end of an era. He still has fabulous art, I mean serious art.I just feel there’s so much blah and Meh around my neighborhood these days.
iris lilies
7-12-21, 2:53pm
Well I am going on and on about this. Ha ha. So I’ve been able to distill in the last hour my concern and it is this:
Instead of giving my eyes something that hurts them, the Grey People give my eyes nothing to land on. My eyes my eyes! They need stimulation but stimulated with something good.
It is ALL. ABOUT. ME.
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