Redfox said something really interesting in a recent post (don't recall where, sorry) about relating to people and giving up your story about them. I was struck by this and have been thinking about one of my sons in this way, the one I tend to worry about the most. She said to give up the story you have created in your mind, and then see what happens.

It is proving very interesting, and forgive me, Redfox, if I have gotten this wrong.

So I am thinking this might be a good spiritual practice for me for Advent, to ech day (?) try to mindfully do this with a different person or event from my life?

And Redfox, if you can explain any more on what you were saying, I would really appreciate it.