Grew up in the 50s, so vestiges of the "Prince Charming" stuff pop up from time to time. The media of that time definitely had gender roles and it's hard to undo some of that. I much prefer an egalitarian marriage which we mostly have, but there are days when I feel like I am too much the "man" - having to make the big decisions just to make something happen. I don't know if it's because DH is not confident enough to or prefers not being resonsible for outcomes. Possibly, he is just avoiding an unhappy spouse if he makes the call and it isn't the right one. I am jokingly called "Bwana". Marriage is interesting. Confidence in either sex is very alluring - I must admit. We definitely have different feelings about stuff that doesn't affect our other issues.