The slow fade?

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He and my mom meticulously planned when and how many kids they were going to have. He chose to create me.

My dad did not plan to have an atheist and/or minimalist son; he is fine with the angler part mostly.

So he choose to create you, or not? I didn't realize the tech was even there to create a boy, then!
He choose to create life. That is it.
That still doesn't mean he is ready or capable to deal with you on terms you can deal with. Everyone has their issues.