Ultralite, my family wouldn't say that because they love me and they understand what is going on with me. Anymore than my husband would say "do 50 push ups or I'm leaving." (I can't do a push up)

if if they had, I would have just collapsed in sorrow, because i would have been as capable of doing that as of doing the push ups.

what they did say is "living like this makes us unhappy." And then they listened when I said why I did it and what I needed. And they are supportive, like somebody lifting your hips while you do the first push up and still being there every day even when it takes you months to do one alone supportive. And they see that I keep working at it. And I may never get there, but I get better. And they know that I really want them to be happy and I keep trying.

which is a lot of why dh is in charge of decorating - but not really, it's really a compromise. "His" room has two chairs, a desk, a bookshelf with books and empty space, a small table, a stereo, a guitar, and a yoga mat. There are a few pictures on the wall. I have to ask before I carry anything in except his mail, as in "can I come sit with you with my book?" Dh, "yes. Don't leave it in here." "My" room is the cluttered messy basement and sometimes he has to remind me to clean it up. "Our" rooms are in between, but he just really doesn't like the dolls. I don't let him hang guns on the wall either.

if he gave me a room like that, I would display the dolls and spend a lot of time there, but I wouldn't invite people in because I'm an introvert and don't like people. Only my mom and anybody else I know if I found out they liked dolls. My nieces for sure! I would have them in to play! They are coming for my daughter's wedding and I really want to show them some of the dolls.