I can't live in a messy house so give my DH his space that I don't enter because it is messy. I also don't clean his office. When we first got together it was obvious I was alot neater so we compromised. He is neater then he was and I give him spaces to be messy. I don't need to be in his office, garage or shed so I stay out. I was in 2 bad marriages and we have a great marriage and have lots of fun together. My 2nd husband was a neat freak to the extreme but was a jerk and treated me badly. Also things have been known to disappear if #3 is gone for a week or so out of town and never misses a thing. What does that tell you?