Yes, rosa and SiouzQ, it's all in the training. I'm going to brag about my own kids... when they were 3 and 5 we were driving around after church hungry, and we came across what looked like a family-friendly place to get a bite for breakfast. Well, when we got inside it was a very quiet, white-tablecloth/white gloved server type of place. But we were too hungry to back out.

We had a very nice breakfast. When we got up to leave, the maitre d stopped us on the way out and said to DH, "Sir, I must commend you on the behavior of your children. Normally we have to batten down the hatches when we see children come in here."

The maitre d didn't know that we had intentionally sat one boy on each side of DH, so that the minute they started acting up, DH would give them a "reminder" pinch on the underside of their thighs and that was enough to stop them, without having to verbally check them.