Quote Originally Posted by TVRodriguez View Post
Thanks, and yes, I agree. As for sounding stupid, I fielded regular questions from some friends who asked me why I'd stay with someone who told me he didn't want to get married, that I was wasting my time. I also got flack for quitting my job (in a profession) to move 1300 miles, where I'd have to take another bar exam, when he could more easily have moved back to where we met. The day after our wedding, my brother kindly reminded me that there was still time for an annulment. I decided DH was worth it. On the greedy thing, well, heck, I made him pay more to "upgrade" my ring and spent $34,000 on a wedding.

UA, I have to give it up to you: you have taken a lot of heat over your positions here, and I give you a lot of credit for keeping your equanimity through it all. I can imagine that to be one of the reasons your girlfriend likes you!
Again, I think you're being unduly hard on yourself by labeling yourself greedy. If the ring and the wedding were important to you, and you guys could afford it, how is that greedy?

When DH and I got married, I was happy to have a simple private ceremony, but he wanted a bigger celebration and he was happy to pay for it (I had no $, as I had a house payment already). We had a beautiful wedding and I'm so glad that he wanted to do it. It's not something I would have done for myself, but it truly was a magical once-in-a-lifetime experience, and he/we could afford it. So why not?

ETA: I suspect the GF likes UltraLiteAngler for his hot body, but he's too shy and modest to admit it!