Misconception: Minimalists don't care about people.

[Alan]

I've learned to really appreciate security people since working in a large regional jail and in psychiatric settings. Men to the rescue! I like being protected.

A man needs to at least have a willingness and *capability* of taking charge even if he's not doing it all the time. Otherwise, he seems weaker than me and I'm just not very attracted to that sort of weakness.

I'm not talking about macho, egotistical jerks who require subservience. Just "manly" and courteous. Not sure how else to describe it. Again, I just know it when I see it!

I know exactly what you both mean. I started my professional life as a policeman and eventually moved into a corporate security/executive protection role, each requiring a take charge attitude. The women I've encountered seemed to love it. Luckily, I've always known that it's not my manly good looks or manly build (snort) that attracts these increasingly younger women, it's the quiet confidence I've trained myself to exude and the willingness to stride into a troublesome situation while others are running away. It's embarrassing to say it, but it's true. I'm an old geezer but I'm still a chick magnet.