Quote Originally Posted by freshstart View Post
Really, what is the big deal about tall? Women friends would set their Match search to a certain height. I'd go out with Peter Dinklage, I don't get it.
I am not sure. I am average height, so I don't put much thought into it. But I know I was turned away or ignored many times for not meeting the "at least 6 feet" minimum that many women have. But I have asked women about the height issue and they say these things:
1. "I don't want to lean down to kiss him."
2. "I want to feel protected."
3. "I want to feel petite next to him, or at least smaller."
4. "I don't want to look lopsided standing next to him."
5. "Height...big feet...things like that are a sign of a ___ ____!"

Personally, I have dated women of all varieties. I like women across the entire range from Kelly Ripa (petite, cute, spunky) to Jill Scott (so beautiful!).

I have dated women who were taller and more muscular than me (this was when I was in shape in college too! haha). I just don't see height as something of importance in a partner.

I think we all see that you are really trying, doing and saying the "right" things as you perceive them. So it would seem she does not appreciate this, but it sounds like she does. Then is it the "things" you both value are not "right" for each other? Why is a super Christian woman ok with a LTR with an atheist and vice versa? Isn't this a huge deal to a super Christian person? We talked about settling and sometimes that's good enough, perhaps that is what is happening here.
She is probably okay with me not being a Christian because I lead a fairly "Christ-like" life, or what-have-you. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I am compassionate to people, community-minded, and kind to animals. I am not materialistic; I strive to be a person of integrity. Etc.

My mother, who is Catholic, rationalizes my atheism like this: "It does not matter than you don't believe in god. What matters is that god believes in you!"

I think that is nonsense, but it gets her through the night. My Christian friends and my Christian gf probably have a similar rationalization.

As an atheist man, I have to accept that the numbers are not in my favor. Most atheists are men. Period. End of story.

That is the demographic reality I am dealing with.