Yep. It's just that keeping people happy can become a rather unfulfilling full time job if you don't set some rules that work for you. I think it's really sweet and admirable that you're trying to compromise, but - at least for me - asking to compromise my financial goals is a lot more sensitive than compromising in a lot of other areas. That, for me, is like asking to compromise what I want to accomplish in life. YMMV. When I said "do you see it changing", I was referring to this demand that you "be the man" in terms of providing all the cash. No doubt you and your relationship will change in many other ways you can't predict.