Quote Originally Posted by bae View Post
Some people are very sex-positive. And some people don't view recreational sex as anything more than that, and aren't shamed by it. Perhaps she was feeling out his point-of-view?

As to STDs, they happen even with safe/safer sex precautions. (And frankly, I'd assume pretty much everyone out there has herpes of some sort at this point - most of the folks with HSV-2 probably don't even know they have it.) So a frank discussion of one's STD status/history can be an important thing.

Be careful out there. But have fun.
I can see that, in the context of a conversation headed in that direction, or the use of all those apps for people looking for sex that night, people are adults, who cares as long as both parties consent? it's the doing it because she is "paying back" back her dates. That doesn't sound like a positive way to approach sex, that it is a debt she is offering to pay. Unless that gets her off, too.

I agree about STDs, especially HPV, I swear that's practically universal. High hopes for that vaccine, but does not cover all HPV. Women can at least be screened for it, there is no such thing for men.

Unless I was going to have sex that night, I would not bring up STDs on the first date. But if I had one, I would do so in an appropriate time frame so the man has time to think about it but not in the heat of the moment. And I would ask him in return.

with a likely LTR looming, I do ask the guy if he is willing to get screened and I do as well. But that doesn't mean you are home free because of what cannot be screened. No one has ever said "no" to this.